Now she lives with me and my family. Very angry , says some mean things. She and dad have lived in this house for 54 years! Dad lives with us as well...dad is more accepting of move. He knows the town house does not work for them anymore and he needs help caring for mom. I do understand the many losses my mom has and continues to face, I want to help her but she is so angry that she does not make sense and you (I) can not reason with her.
What about getting mom involved in some sort of activities or a day program. Get her out of the house to do different things she may or even may not enjoy. Is she able to get out and around ok? Keep her busy, maybe she is juust bored?