Anyone have any ideas or experiences with the dementia patients who hides their eye glasses? I have this problem with my mom. I have the eyeglasses with a ribbon around her neck all day but at night she hides it in places that it takes me days to find it! I even used a safety pin to secure the ribbon to back of her shirt, but she took it out and hid it again. Then every day she asks for it and of course she blames it on my poor husband! 😄
Also she goes to my closet and takes my clothes claiming that they're hers even though I'm petite and she is not! I know they don't think of sizes, but this is getting too much! Was funny at first but now I have to look for my clothes in her closet! 🙄
Any suggestions?
Thanks in advance🙏
You can put a lock on your closet, however, you could put some of her clothes in your closet and maybe she'll pick out her own. I have an "Oh, Well" attitude, even when my most expensive china cup and saucer got broke, It was a hummingbird. Now, the cup has a story and I look at the cup (repaired) and say "I'll remember this more fondly."
In light of what will happen as the disease progresses - I decided to treasure these moments. Frustrating? Yes at times. I a putting them in perspective and if I get upset I try to do so in private. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. May you blessed
Not sure what you can do about the clothes short of putting a lock on your door. Which is what I would do.
When Mom was in the AL she used to take clean clothes and put them with the dirty ones. Once I figured out what she was doing I rehung them. Always right on the top of the pile.
Her glasses, one time she left them in an empty room. Another, the hairdresser mixed Moms up with another woman's. I ended up taking pictures of them in case they got lost again.
And put a top bolt on your closet door so she can’t open it easily to swipe your clothes. That’s easier for you than a padlock.
When my LO started taking her glasses off and losing them, I was told by multiple people that she was no longer using them, meaning she was no longer reading or watching tv. I don’t know if that’s true.
She also can't respect your clothing because she doesn't remember. I'd put a lock on your bedroom door limiting her access to the room. If you don't want her getting into things, limit her access. That way you aren't wasting time and energy looking for things and getting annoyed.
Just remember what she's doing isn't personal to you. It's her dementia.
Being a caregiver to a dementia person is very difficult. Take care of yourself.
i got tired of buying replacement phones and remotes to have “in stock”. I buy Tile finders to stick on all my mother’s remotes and phones. The app on my iPhone has been a blessing when she accused us of taking things. I pull my app up and the Tile beeps and locates the missing item. And the tile device stays adhered! She hasn’t removed any of them yet!
My mother’s room is over our living room and when I hear her being busy back and forth and drawers and cupboards banging, I know tomorrow she won’t be able to find anything. This is normal. My sister went through this with her mother-in-law so I kind of knew what to expect with our mom but it’s still peculiar to me why she moves things all the time. I thought she was hiding them but she seems to be relocating all the time.
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