She does have help from my brother and uncle that live near. Sometimes my dad will go up to 3 days with diarrhea and my mom can't handle changing and cleaning him. Does hospice have helpers that will come during those times? Also dad has started getting up at night and trying to walk to the bathroom. He fell recently and had to crawl back to his room. He wakes mom up at night and she really needs her sleep. Does hospice offer over night care? Thank you for your help. Mom is really worn out, but willingly does all she can to help dad.
I am so sorry that you are going through this difficult time.
Years ago I was an in-patient hospice RN. But we had a division of the service that visited patients at home (where most hospice care is given). I would encourage you to call the Hospice organization and ask for a social worker (maybe an intake worker) to come and evaluate.
Hospice is supposed to be of service to the entire family and so your mother's well-being should be on their radar. They should be able to connect her with services to help, also with home health equipment such as bed rails, even an alarm pad that goes under the sheet and lets your mother know if your dad is getting out of bed.
I do not know the financial situation, but if at all possible I would recommend some help in the home to give your mother a break. There are agencies that you can contract for a couple of hours a day. An aide can come and do the bathing and changing sheets, and give your mom a chance to go get her hair done!
Best of luck to you,
Margaret