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What level of care does your dad need? Is his stay with you intended to be a recovery period, or when he moved in was it intended to be permanent. Could Dad live alone with some help? How are his finances -- can he support himself on his income? Where was he living before he moved in with you?
Does Dad have other impairments in addition to heart problems? Does he show any signs of dementia, for example?
Why does Dad continue to feed the dogs if he has been asked/told not to? Is this a power play? Is his attitude "you can't tell me what to do?" or can't be remember the rules about the feeding? Is he deliberately causing conflict?
Did you and Hubs together make the decision to invite Dad to live with you?
Please provide us a little more background information, to get more specific advice/comments.
Your husband's feelings come first. If Dad has money find a nice AL otherwise file for Medicaid.
Over feeding dogs or feeding them the wrong thing is serious. If Dad has been told over and over I can see why husband could be upset.
Did you set boundaries with Dad? Are you making excuses for him? Is he able to understand what you need from him. My Dad was the type of person to do things just to get your goat. Remember, it's your husbands home and he has a right to be happy in it.
Wow if all my dad had done was feed the animals I would have been thrilled. I think the issue here is her Hubs anger. It is hard when a parent moves in, more so if there was no real advance notice, and you probably had none as dad had a heart attack. My mom got ill, and she and dad had to move in with my hubs and I.. quickly. I had always "talked" about knowing one set or the other would probably move in with us, it is the reason I bought a dang large house.. but hubs always avoided these conversations ( he is sometimes a "head in the sand" kind of guy) Sure enough,, it happened! He was all shocked.. ( go figure) but we have managed to work it out, and its over 3 years now ( dad passed a few years ago) It is stressful, but maybe have a good sit down with your hubs (first) and see what is really bothering him,, then see if you and dad can come with any ways to make this easier. Hubs may be feeling invaded, or like he is no longer the "man of the house", or be jealous of the attention he thinks your dad is getting. Good luck!
So your father is living in your home, it's been three months now, and your husband is beginning to find it too much so he picks up on points like your father's giving the dogs too many treats or feeding them at the dining table, things like that?
This is a really stressful situation for all of you, I'm very sorry you're going through it. Would you like to share a bit more about the background? What happened when your father became ill, why did you and your husband decide your father should come and stay with you, that kind of thing?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Does Dad have other impairments in addition to heart problems? Does he show any signs of dementia, for example?
Why does Dad continue to feed the dogs if he has been asked/told not to? Is this a power play? Is his attitude "you can't tell me what to do?" or can't be remember the rules about the feeding? Is he deliberately causing conflict?
Did you and Hubs together make the decision to invite Dad to live with you?
Please provide us a little more background information, to get more specific advice/comments.
Over feeding dogs or feeding them the wrong thing is serious. If Dad has been told over and over I can see why husband could be upset.
Did you set boundaries with Dad? Are you making excuses for him? Is he able to understand what you need from him. My Dad was the type of person to do things just to get your goat. Remember, it's your husbands home and he has a right to be happy in it.
So your father is living in your home, it's been three months now, and your husband is beginning to find it too much so he picks up on points like your father's giving the dogs too many treats or feeding them at the dining table, things like that?
This is a really stressful situation for all of you, I'm very sorry you're going through it. Would you like to share a bit more about the background? What happened when your father became ill, why did you and your husband decide your father should come and stay with you, that kind of thing?