I need some advice. My dad has a lot of health issues and severe short-term memory loss. A month ago, there was a medical emergency that required him to spend a week in the hospital. It turns out that his BP was 209/116 and his Glucose was in the 300s. He does not remember to take his medicine consistently and they have expired. In addition, he was taking pills to help with his libido (not sure why); Horny Goat Weed and Semax. He hasn't directly spoken to me about it but has alluded to his caregiver, who quit, that he wants to go home. I am concerned about legal issues, but I am not rich and can't afford to get him deemed incompetent so do I let him go home?
Who is POA? Executor? Do you know of a will or living trust?
As said by waytomisery DO NOT LET THE SOCIAL WORKER TALK YOU INTO TAKING HIM HOME! UNSAFE UNSAFE!!!
If you are the only next of kin then it should be rather easy for you to take over... if he has a living trust you can have him resign as trustee and take it from there. If not... seek and elder attorney... it will be costly but the best money you can spend been there done that! Also being on this site helps a lot!
I was POA for my daddy, at the time all my siblings were alive and I only got static from one. But I told them how the cow ate the buckwheat and no one else gave me any static. I cared for him and had to make the decisions for him, advised him to resign as trustee from the living will and just in time because the ALZ was getting bad fast. I have learn a lot from this site and from ALZ.org. Ask questions and know that just because it's out of the box doesn't mean it won't work!
Say there is no one to take care of him . Don’t let the social worker talk you into taking him home with you . They will try to say he’s your responsibility. But you do not have to care for him or live with him . Tell them you can not care for him . Tell them you work ( even if you don’t ).
Let the social worker find placement for him . I’m assuming you don’t have POA, so let the state/county takeover . Don’t pick him up at all from the hospital , even if they try to tell you they will send help ….there won’t be much if any . Don’t let them talk you into to taking him home temporarily until placement either . If you have to don’t answer their calls .