My deddy is 93yo!! He has always been a hard working, STRONG WILLED, independent (hard headed too) man and always was outgoing person. Seemed like nothing could slow him down!! Until he got Covid back in 2021 the in 2022 and 2023 got pneumonia, which ended up with him being put on oxygen but not 24/7. Pretty much after doing a task or sleeping he wld have to use his oxygen, until summer of 2024. That’s when he starting using his oxygen all day an night. He had a stroke back in August of 2024, when he got up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom. When he got up he stumbled and fell, but go back into bed. He got up again to use the bathroom took his oxygen off and fell again and hurt his left arm badly. (He has hospice through his insurance which is Well Care, so it not like the normal hospice care) I just had happened to spend the night with my parents that night. We thought he had a stroke or heart attack so We called the ambulance and when they found out that hospice was involved they said they weren’t really able to do anything! He was showing signs of a stroke but they said they thought it was a TIA (which is similar to a stroke) after that he could move his legs and feel them, but never has stood on them since the night he fell! Hospice brought a bed a couple weeks later and he has been in it since then, and since then he’s health has declined so much! I’m the past 3/4 weeks even worse. His memory now has all but completely gone away! Friday when the nurse and aid came his skin hadn’t started molting but today she saw it and it started at his feet and has worked his way up to his hands! I kno usually that means hours to days to live! He isn’t really eating or drinking anything at all maybe a sip of water 2 MAYBE 3 times a day! (I kno that is a lot for him)! He’s gotten where he isn’t responsive to sound or touch (even with my nephew that’s 3 who lives with his mama and my mama and deddy who can be extremely loud, he doesn’t respond! I kno his confusion came from the stroke but the only person he knows if he wakes up is my mama. He has all the signs of actively dying especially now that his skin is molting and not eating, drinking, unresponsive to touch and sound! His breathing is deep, and slow but will become regular for a few mins but he also has AFIB!! I live over an hour away from my parents and I’ve have two boys that are in school, idk if I need to keep them out and leave in the morning and go stay until he passes. So my question is how long does anyone think he has?? I kno we’re all different and no one but the good Lord above knows the time and day. But I’m asking if anyone has experienced this before with a loved one and how long did it take them to pass??? Hospice beats around the bush and never can say, yes call family in when we’re the type of people who WANTS TO KNOW, AND KNOW EXACTLY WHT THEY/DR THINKS OR THINKS IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN!! We can take the……he’s prolly only got hours to a couple days to live! We’ve got family in other states and that lives across the state (NC) that need to told so they can see him before he passes! Any advice or suggestions from anyone who might have been through this will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks ☺️
I would notify all that want to have that last visit that it is best to visit NOW.
Wishing you peace and strength to you and your family.
Like you already said, only the Good Lord knows the day and time that He will call your dad Home, so just go spend whatever time with him you need to before he dies, and leave nothing left unsaid.
And just FYI....hospice hasn't a clue either when someone is going to die. They can guess, but it just that, a guess.
When my late husband was under hospice care, and he started his active dying process, his nurse said he would be dead in 3 days. Well very long and painful story short, he died 41 days later.
So go be with your dad, and tell other family members that if they want to see him before he dies they best get there soon.