I have asked, begged, ordered, pleaded, even explained why medically it is necessary. He is capable of showering, just won't. He has been wearing the same clothes since January of this year, night and day, never takes them off. Even sleeps with his shoes on. He really smells. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Another strategy is to have the doctor "prescribe" a weekly bath, then show him the doctor's orders - he may be more willing to comply with someone in authority. There are lots of threads on this forum about making the bathroom more welcoming like adding grab bars, a heater, a shower chair, a slip proof mat to the shower. Many people have abandoned the shower altogether as just too difficult and rely on sponge baths, disposable wipes or no rinse shampoos and bath products. But first you need to get those clothes off 🙄 (hugs)
(Maybe your hubby thinks he has some skin or medical condition and is afraid of exposing it?)
Also, hiring an aide (preferable male?) to come out once a week to help with a bath may not be as expensive as you think. Probably $15-25/ per hour for maybe 1-2 hours.
I'm sorry you are going through this. Hopefully you will be able to get some answers and some help for him. Surely if the doctor sees him in his unkempt state, he/she will know that something is amiss.