He is refusing to go. He is narcissistic and always demanded I be there to take care of him. He won’t shower or clean himself, won’t let me get his hair cut — going for that ‘Howard Hughes’ look — very scruffy and dirty. He has never been the kindest these past 35 years.
I’m telling him he could just go and check it out. He might like it. I’ve got all-new furniture and supplies already. Spent a lot of $. Now he is refusing to try, even temporarily. I don’t know if I should cancel at this point or just bring him like we’re going to the Dr appointment and leave. Any suggestions? I’ve tried everything I could think of and I'm so much more stressed at this point. My personal well-being is really at the breaking point here.
I would hire an ambulette transport to “ take him for an appointment “ . They will bring him to memory care. Tell him the car is broken , he has to take this ambulette for a “ Doctor appt”.
Stay away for at least a few days so he can get acclimated . Stay away longer if needed .
Good Luck .
I am very hard.
Ask your doctor for recommendations now, as well as hubby's doc will have forms to fill out for the facility as to his level of care needs.
Good luck.
You could go at lunch time, then go “to the ladies’ room”.
YOU matter, too. Not just the patient.
The patient does not get to make care decisions at this point. The patient with dementia has no power of reasoning any longer.