Mom is in a LTC 3 weeks ago she came down with a UTI and after 5 days on the antibiotic they took her to the hospital. After a 5 day stay they released her back to the hospital and she was fine for 4 days then she started screaming Mama Mama Mama and just loud screams at the top of her lungs. They found that her urine culture was showing another strong bacteria and they put her on Zyvox which is a heavy duty antibiotic for 5 days. This is day 4 and we see no improvement in her demeanor. All she is doing now is screaming bloody murder, won't eat, won't drink so they put her on an IV drip to keep her hydrated. She keeps complaning of pain down in her groin area so they gave her a med for bladder spasms and one to control the burning, also she is on a catheter. Instead of getting better she seems worse with the screaming and calling out. I know she can't help it but it's the worst trying to sit there and listen to this constant yelling out...has anyone else dealt with a UTI so bad all their loved one did was scream out? What did you do??
May God grant you grieving mercies and strength during this difficult time.
It is a blessing that her suffering is over, she will always be alive in your heart.
so sorry for the difficult journey for your mom and you - be at peace with your decisions and no regrets
as your mom quiets down with the pain meds, you will be able to sit quietly with her, talk to her and hold her hand, pray (if inclined) and play music
ATIVAN IS SO IMPORTANT...WITH THE MORPHINE.
Your mom has IV drip... my hospice doesn't believe in IV DRIP, so I was shown by a hospice nurse, the one on the weekends apparently... how to smash morphine pills into a powder and spread it in my mom's cheeks, every hour....She did not even mention ATIVAN. So, mom was suffering a few hours with morphine powder etc. When I got another hospice nurse on phone, he said he would be over ASAP to help me. He got her comfortable, and asked for the ativan which was in the ER packet in refrigerator... so he got her comfortable the rest of the time...
It was 4 days for my dad to pass after they stopped IV fluids. Talk to her and play some soothing music. God bless.
I support your decision of meeting with palliative care 100%!
I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I”ve been thru the wringer with both parents in the last 2 years, and I’ve has to become hardened to having to make difficult decisions, but in the best interest of my parents. These have been the most difficult 2 years of my life, and I am sorry for you... best wishes..
if she is at the end of late stage dementia.