My mom is in a nursing home in another state where she and dad live. Dad is in assisted living nearby and visits her daily. After his visit where I had called and talked to both of them, she called me back. By then she was confused about where she is thinking she’s in a motel near me. She wants me to come get her, very upset and demanding I do something. What can I say that won’t incite her further?
could you then call the nursing station? Maybe they could restrict the hours she has access to her phone?
good luck.
Keep your voice calm and tell her in a warm, kind tone that you’re working on it and you’ll discuss it with her tomorrow. Assure her that she’s safe. Then hang up. Call the nurse station if you like. They’re used to this.
Hopefully mom won’t remember the conversation but may bring it up again. Handle it exactly as you did previously every time she does it. It isn’t necessary to give credence to everything a dementia patient says! They are in their own irrational world.
I would speak with the facility about how best to manage this.
I am so sorry for all that you ALL are going through, but it's a relief that Dad is nearby and can daily visit with her.