My friend who's father is also in memory care, told me that she tells her father whatever she thinks will make him feel better. When he asks where his wife (who is deceased) is, she tells him, she's at the store, or getting her hair fixed and doesn't remind him that she has died. He likes to give people money, so they gave him play money and he thinks its real. Is this ok? I just can't seem to bring myself to do that with my mother. I'm fearful she'll wonder why I am lying to her. I've been mulling this around in my mind for days and haven't come to a conclusion. Does anyone else do this for their loved one with dementia?
Anyway, my answer is yes. Sometimes the questions and queries are on a "tape loop". Best to answer, and distract: SQUIRREL.!! At times you have to divert their attention, even if it's just temporary... Perhaps, it will jar up another thought they had... Well, at least it may be different?
Maybe they know the answer, but don't really want to believe the truth.. If your LO past, do you really want to ask the same question? They are hoping for a happier or better answer.. Sometimes the right truthful answer is too hard to accept..