My husband who is in the 5-6 stage of Alzheimers is determined to do things that can hurt him. He is fixated on things like lawnmowers, weedeaters and electric saws. He also has COPD and in on oxygen most of the time. He is able to get out of house and is constantly trying to operate the equipment he used when he was well. He gets so angry when I try to stop him. Yes, I've tried to divert his attention to something else and it does not work. I am so stressed all the time. I know this is not good for me and I fear for my health as well. He is 83 and I am 72. Any advise would be appreciated.
For your husband's safety and for your own health, you need some outside help. He doesn't understand why he can't do what he wants, but a good nursing home would have diversions for him that are safe. His doctor should be able to help you make a decision. Take care,
Carol
He has dementia and can't remember 5 minutes. Asks questions over and over.
Anyway, that's what I did. I know its your husband and that's different, but when it comes to your safety and his, its so important to get outside help. I knew I couldn't look after him 24/7, even though it may have been insinuated from others to do so. Only you know what you can handle and it looks like you have done all you can. I know its hard when they get angry, because that's your loved one and you don't want them to be mad, but he will forget. I didn't really believe that, but its true. I know there is guilt, but try to look beyond that. You are doing the best you can. If you get him in a home, there will still be issues, but at least you might get some peace. I hope things resolve quick for you. I understand!
Love,
Tracy
If the main problem right now is the dangerous power tools and equipment, and if you want him to remain at home and other things are going well, give removing the items a try.
On the other hand, dementia often (usually?) progresses to the point where it just is not feasible for one person to care for the individual at home. Perhaps your husband is reaching that point. As Carol said, discuss this with his doctor. Placement in a suitable long term care facility may be best for all concerned.
My heart goes out to you.