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I was going to take my mother to the movies today but realized she would not understand it. Also when I take her somewhere she talks to strangers. This would be fine if she just said hello but she keeps talking and it does not make sense which gets awkward. Sometimes she will laugh into the face of children. She is trying to be nice but it scares them and the parents. And she steals stuff out of restaurants.

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Check out your local senior center. If it's a good one they may have several different activities a week.
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You guys have given me an idea for a new fun topic about what our care receivers say over and over again. It can drive you NUTS for sure!! :)
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Lol. Too bad we aren't sharing one! On that note, I tried at one point to start a club for caregivers in my area but it never took off. It would be fun to go shopping with you and your mom and we could walk behind them chuckling and pretend we don't know them when they get awkward.
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LOL. Are we sure we aren't sharing the same person? :-)

I totally forgot about S&H green stamps but that's probably next.
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lol, ha ha ha. Free in a box of laundry soap. ha ha ha You are telling my story geo. Mine likes to say at the top of her voice, "this is cute, but not ten dollars cute." Also, our shopping trips are peppered with "I haven't seen that since I left home." She can be pointing to anything from cheerios to beer. She never fails to say "you could get that for a dime" or "free with S&W green stamps", at least 20 times during every trip. She also says "those are back" and she is referring to items like raisins or bread rolls.??? None of this would be bad but the problem is that she talks about people she sees too and that often goes beyond okay. You can just imagine her reaction to things like piercings, extensive tattoos and gauges. ha ha.
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I meant to say that she loudly exclaims. Sorry that there's no such word as "louding."
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I'm glad to be reading these ideas, myself.

Just one thing to consider on antique shops, though: while they do provide fodder for reminiscing, my mother who is also getting more "direct" ends up louding exclaiming things like, "$100!!! My mother got that for FREE in a box of laundry soap!!!!!" And she does this repeatedly. I'm passing this along as just something to think about in case your mom is in that same mindset.
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I think it's better to bring your mother into a picnic garden or any place where she can breath fresh and relaxing air. You can both make a fresh vegetable salads, walk for some mile and let her share anything that comes in her mind. Make her feel being loved, though she can't appreciate it, but her priceless and happy face will make the outing being worth it.
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Antique shops and thrift stores! Rarely crowded and they provide plenty of fodder for conversation as the articles in them bring back memories.
If they like animals you can have one visit her/him at home with a handler ( ask your local elderly services or rescue league). This makes for good company both human and four legged.
For the ladies or gents how about having a manicure/pedicure or massage?
Enjoy plants? Start an indoor box of herbs or lettuce, shop for seeds,visit green houses.
Good weather:Go on a picnic,go fishing!
Art,History and architecture:Give them tour of the local sites with history.They may teach you a thing or two!
Chocolate shops, ice cream shops,cheese shops with samples.This is great fun,inexpensive and filling!
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I love these suggestions. So many new ideas. Thanks everyone!

Yes my mom's dementia is "mild" but she has lost all manners and sense of what is appropriate. People speak to her like she is a child but yet she makes those embarrassing jokes and it is just plain awkward.

It is nice to know I am not alone. I felt very guilty for not wanting to take her out but you all have helped a lot.
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It's getting to the point where realistically, you can't take your mom out. Look to show like "Too Cute! Puppies and Kittens." My mom loved that. A year later and she can't relate to TV or going out - except for takeout, at all.
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If you have a large garden store/nursery in the area, it can be very entertaining to explore that. I always let my mom pick out a houseplant.

I often took pictures of our outings when caring for my husband, and then had them made into a single-subject book. Then he'd have a reminder and something to talk to me or others about. For example, we toured replicas of the ships Columbus sailed, and I made a book of that. He brought it to his day program. We went for a drive to see fall colors and I made a book of those pictures which he enjoyed several times. I have one of state fairs we've attended, and another of the International Crane Foundation place. I also have more elaborate scrapbooks that cover longer periods and themes, but these one-event books are pretty quick to put together and really extended the pleasure Coy got out of the events.

I also found the adult day health program very worthwhile.
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My mother has mild dementia, or is it mild? Anyway, she has become inappropriate with friends and family. She will attempt to make jokes or sexual inuendos with an audience. My daughters just laugh and she laughs with them. But I don't think it's funny and have let my opinion be known. She frequently makes jokes about getting older. Grrrr!
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If she can walk, I might take her to the outlet mall. I do this with my mom. She talks a bit too much to the shopkeepers, but I can kind of keep her moving. Also, my mom's memory isn't great. So, if she wants to buy something, I'll tell her that there are still other stores to look at to compare prices. Then, she just forgets all about it. We don't end up spending any money. Plus, most outlet malls have a McD's or family restaurants around them and we always stop to eat. For my mom, going into a big store is overwhelming, but lots of little stores like the outlet mall has, and she really enjoys the variety. Also, most outlet malls have benches scattered around to rest on.

Ditto for a cute downtown area with lots of shops, except that there are seldom benches to rest on.

Similar to the house and garden ideas, if you have a local arboretum where you can slowly drive through, look at the trees, maybe even get out and sit on a bench in some particularly scenic area -- that will also have fewer people around and might work out.
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When my grandma had Alzheimer's and she began to be inappropriate in public we would drive to other parts of town and look at the houses. We'd drive to newest, most expensive part of town one day and maybe to an older part (with large, stately mansions) of town another day. We'd stop and eat McDonald's in the car and make a day of it.
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Try a zoo or animal sanctuary. Even when she doesn't follow a movie plot would she enjoy looking at the pictures? Like "moving wallpaper" it's distracting. Can you play things on tv like the Puppy Bowl, or DVDs of nature scenes?
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If you have a companion chair, walk her around the mall. Get her moving when she starts to talk to people. I've walked both my dad and mom around a big mall area in a companion chair, which is good exercise for me and a chance for them to see others. You could also take her to a drive-in or drive through food place and eat in your car, or take it outside when the weather is a bit better. Maybe outdoor concerts if she likes music? That way you could leave easily if she starts acting up or wants to go. Good luck, it's tough with the things your mom is doing.
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I love the library!
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Find a day care program for her. That will give her a break and you also.
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A picnic in a park, a visit to museums or flower gardens, places you can keep her on the move?
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