my sister as the POA, that will create thousands of dollars in legal fees for me. Why? Because, my sisters are 10 plus years older than I am, they have houses paid for, I don't . the one large asset my father is splitting with us, unless he is lying big time is the house, he and my mother own. They do not live there because they cannot. They are too ill. She is far worse off than he, and not of right ming "alzheimer's" The house is about a $350,000 or more asset to me. That cash, would pay my house off, and make my life, so I am not care giving for 82 hours a week. I do this because I have to. My husband got really sick, and tonight, the reality is this. If I do not have some sort of income, I will be working 80 hours a week for a year or so. I am 54, and who can keep up that schedule?
My sisters do not invite me to anything, they are big babies, and my father has never stuck up for me. In private of course, I feel sorry for you and am proud of you, but when push comes to shove and I say dad, what do you thing of making your real estate;
I realize that regardless, I am stating that when my parents die, I am wanting to sell my 1/3 portion of a house that is out in the middle of nowhere, but why would I want to have 1/3 share. If I was in a better financial shape yes, but I know my POA sister who won't even call me, and lives less than a mile from me is pathetic and sick.
I need advice of any kind.
I know i am banking on my parents money, but I have tried to talk to my father, and he states, that is not my problem. I feel for 20 years he has been a real cop out on this.
Right now, both sisters are taking money left and right and because my parents are not dead, I cannot find out a thing legally. My dad told me once just get along,
Thanks for your help.
I LOVE MY CAREGIVING JOBS
Second, I do not understand how which one of you has POA as any impact on what you will inherit. How will having a sister with POA create legal fees for you? I hope you will explain this a little more, because it seems to be the heart of the issue and we could address it better if we understood it.
So you are a professional financial planner, and you are "moonlighting" as a 40-hours-per week caregiver because you need the money? And you were doing this for a couple of weeks before your husband died, and have continued to do it since? You must be so stressed and upset. No wonder your sisters' behavior and excluding you from their social lives, etc. is especially upsetting to you at this time.
Give yourself a break in trying to work this all out. Deal with your grief. I was advised not to make any drastic or permanent decisions for many months -- a year if possible -- after my husband died. I think that is good advice.
Please accept my condolences.
In my case, my mother really needed some help and asked me to do it. Our agreement is that, for now, she does everything she is capable of, but that I help, but some day will probably do more. For example, she can't balance her bank book without help nor write the checks for her bills and I help her, but I don't just do it for her. It occurred to me that it would save me time to do it for her, but I want to keep her independent and proud as much as I can and I don't want to appear to just be taking over. Not every POA takes this view of it and I think there really is concern where siblings hate each other that the POA probably really could find ways to abuse it.
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