My family is very busy and I have to leave my home during the day to work. I have to leave my father alone for up to three hours. I have called several organizations for assistance but I either make too much money or due to my father's and grandmother's assets they are not able to recieve more benefits. I feel my family tells me how much more I can do and how I do not ask for their help. I was recently reported to Adult Protective Services because they felt as if they three hours my father and grandmother asked to be left alone was unreasonable and too long. I have no idea what to do and where to turn. I do not have the money to hire anyone for the three hours three days per week and weekends. Any advice? I feel very guilty as if I am not doing enough even though the people I take care of tell me I am doing too much.
Personally, I have not had much luck in contacting my Offices on Aging...they just give you a bunch of telephone numbers to call...and when you call them you get more numbers. Also, many budgets are being cut for many programs.
Do your parents belong to a church or organization whose members can help out at least once a week?
You mention that your dad and grandmother have "assets." Use these now to pay for care. If they ever need Medicaid assistance, you will have to spend these funds on them in order to qualify...so use them now. It is appropriate for them to pay for a small amount of their care especially when you are doing everything else. If the other family members complain...welcome them to come by during those hours to help you out...that should take care of them!
I know, I'm a fountain of information in that area (ha) but I DO know they have such a thing here in our area.