Is it possible to become a caregiver for my mother and also get paid? I can't work while also having to take care of my mother. There are no other siblings but me. With the way the economy is it's getting harder and harder to buy groceries, pay for medications and also take care of my mother. My husband and I have been doing it for probably 7 or 8 years now. Please help! Thanks.
If you do decide to be paid to provide in home care you MUST understand that you cannot rely on the LTC insurance to give an adequate amount of hours required for care. You must also expect for them to be cut on short notice at any time as it suits the insurance company. Had I known what I know now I would NEVER have done things this way. DON'T give up an income to do this. It is not an income you will be able to rely on. Also policies for hospitalizations mean you don't get paid while the member is hospitalized, even if it is for a month and even if you are still working communicating with doctors, insurance, nursing staff, if your relative is disabled and you are at the hospital providing assistance to them it all = NO PAY.
Finally, with dementia, ultimately your LO is going to need memory care in a facility equipped for that. I have read stories on here of caregivers essentially held hostage in their LO's home due to not being able to leave from the unfolding effects of dementia. You can still advocate for you LO if placed somewhere, visit a lot, but I think from what I have read dementia requires more than in home care for one person to maintain on an ongoing basis.
Your mother will only continue to get worse and you now need to not only do what is best for her but also what is best for you and your husband.
And until you get her placed you can call 211 to find out what resources may be available in your area to help.
I would start with the question as to whether she is on Medicaid or not. And if she is, whether she would qualify mentally/physically for inhome help and whether you state program will allow you to act for her.
If your mom has savings then it's up to her really to pay you for care if she is able.
At best, care payments by the government, state and/or federal, isn't enough to sustain a lifestyle. If your Mom passes you may be alone, without job or job history, and we have had in the past to recommend to posters that they move to a shelter.
Be certain, if mom DOES pay you for care, to keep a good paper trail as should she ever need to apply to Medicaid it is important that she can pass the 5 years without gifting qualifications. It can't look as though she is giving you money.
I wish you the best and hope you find the information you are looking for.