My Mother is trapped. This man who I shamefully claim as my father is mean. If you knew him you would have zero sympathy. He threatens to "end it". He is a miserable joke of a human. He cant hold his bowels. Can walk but maybe 10 steps with a walker. He is end stage heart failure. Refuses to go to a home or facility of any kind and insist my elderly mother take care of him. What do we do? Does she need to divorce him to get out of this horrible situation? She lives in Georgia USA. Thanks
You cannot force her away from this man if she has all her mind. If she doesn't, and no one is her PoA, then you can try a therapeutic fib to get her out of the house long enough for APS to remove your Father. And do not tell your Father what you are up to. Don't tell your Mom until it's close tot the time for her to leave with you and you'll need to make sure she doesn't tell your Father.
Often an abused person will not leave, then you mix age in years in there , it's impossible.
Honestly I highly doubt, there is anything you can do.
So sorry and best of luck
I assume his abuse isn't new. She has stayed how many years? I would assume she will remain.
Again, this is for you to ask your mother, not us.