I am 78. My wife was diagnosed with Alzheimers over a hear ago. If I go down.... I have problems with my back and my family has a history of heart attacks.... who is going to care for my wife?
This may become an emergency if something happens to me. Our children have moved away from the area so I will need some outside help.
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When we were newlyweds, we had a delightful older couple who lived next door to us. He was a devoted husband and kept his wife at home as long as he could. Once she began to wander, he could not control her. He placed her in a memory care where the doors and window are alarmed. He went out first thing in the morning and got her out of bed and went to the cafeteria with her for breakfast and lunch, fed her when she needed help, made sure she was entertained, and then went and had his men's meetings and shopping. In the evenings, he went by at 4 to get her to dinner at 5, then helped her get to bed. We would see him come home at 7 every night, and my little children would go hug him to keep him from being too lonely. He was such a devoted husband. When the team their son coached went to the state championship, he left her at the home, knowing she was fine. He brought back photos. He did this until she passed several years later.
You can find a place for her and still have her as the biggest part of your life. But if something happens, you will have peace of mind that she is ok.