Today, a different personal care aide came to my home without the home health agency giving me advance notice. I was so frustrated with a different aide showing up without advance notice, I told her that she can leave because husband is not feeling well and I will be home all day with him. I have told the agency that my husband has special needs and when so many different aides come he gets confused due to dementia and Parkinson's disease. Also, had another stroke last October. This agency does not listen...I told the nurse who came out the first time that his condition and the time I would like for them to come out and they changes the time on me without notice and I am just frustrated. I did call VA and talk to the individual who is in charge of finding agencies for Vets. She told me that she sympathize for what I have gone through and will be terminating the care for my husband. I am glad of that...but, I do need a break. I feel like the health care system has fell senior citizens in regard to aides coming to your home. They come into your home and just feel they should be only baby sitters and with my husband's need is more than just sitting and waiting for their time to be over. I am going to see what I can do to make this better for all seniors who need home care as far as an aide coming in to your home. Has anyone experience the same frustration with the service of personal care aides employed by home health care agency?
I thought that when I called one agency and the male manager said he had "12 girls" to choose from. I almost told him I wasn't looking for a harem of potential lovelies.
I doubt if the managers belong to any employer organizations, have professional HR managers, or really make an effort to make their employees feel welcome and cherished. And I think the so-called training is nominal, if it even exists.
That reminded me of some of the law firms' activities to support their personnel. It wasn't uniform, not by a long shot, but some of them did make efforts, beyond good raises and bonuses at Christmas.
One had a policy of periodically having pizza parties at work. In retrospect, I think the HR manager took the pulse of the staff and when it was getting low, the firm closed the doors, invited us all into the kitchen and we had pizza and salad.
Another firm had monthly educational sessions for the attorneys and paralegals. The food was always excellent, with plenty left over. Not only did it give the paralegals a chance to interact on a social basis with the attorneys, but it was just a nice relaxing luncheon while learning about some aspect of the various practice areas of the firm.
And the food was always good, especially when I worked for Jewish firms and we got the best food from the local delis. But the absolute best was the leftovers from the Bar Mitzvahs!
I doubt if any of the caregiving agencies even think of doing things like that.
Sadly, there are no good solutions.
In my limited experience, I saw the client's side of this and was equally frustrated and discouraged. We only had one aide out of 3 who was reliable and competent, and she was in the field only during the winter as she was a small business owner whose work was seasonal. The other two were clearly losers, yet arrogant and disillusioned as to their ability.
I honestly don't know what I would have done if Dad hadn't declined and entered professional care through a SNF. I had to spend more time babysitting disinterested "caregivers" than I did before, so it was no relief for me, and the care for Dad didn't even "meet standards."
I think this whole issue and aspect of caregiving is one that is literally a timebomb - eventually something will happen and the liability issue will be litigated and widely publicized.
I spent a bit of time, and found two ladies from my social circle (sister of a contractor who did a lot of work for my parents, and her niece). Both were introduced to my parents...it went very well.
I offered to them to get hired for $15 per hour with the agency. (The insurance company required I use and agency for home aides). The agency said they would only hire at $9 per hour. They would charge $20 per hour..but only pay 9. No way. So I told them...you can accept $5 per hour profit off these women that I FOUND...or I would go to an agency that would. So, they were hired.
Wonderful ladies...both a godsend. And they covered for each other too.
Consider a different path to covering home aide need. Check with the church, friends, etc. BUT, be prepared to stand up for them and demand a decent wage.
It's the nature of the business. Say Aide X is scheduled to see Mrs. Smith. But Mrs. Jones has called the agency and requests Aide X. Mrs. Jones needs more hours than Mrs. Smith which makes more money for the agency so Aide X goes to Mrs. Jones and the agency sends in Aide Y to Mrs. Smith who has never met Aide Y.
It's a terrible business and it's difficult to find good aides but the aides are only as good as the agency trains them to be. Many times an aide will have no idea what her patient's needs are. She'll just get a call to go to someone's house at a certain time with little to no information to go on.
Hospice is different. Hospice workers are well trained and understand what their patient needs. Often there is family coming and going and they're all grateful to the hospice worker. The family can spend their precious time with their loved one without the added stress and anxiety of caring for their loved one because that's the job of the hospice worker.
You wondered what you could do to make this better for all seniors who need home care? They need more money and tighter regulations. Home health aids get paid about as much as someone who works at McDonald's. The industry attracts people who have difficulty finding good jobs. The agencies don't care about their aides, there are rarely any incentives or bonuses and it's a dead-end job. Once someone becomes an aide there's no place to go from there. Agencies don't offer tuition reimbursement or any assistance at all for education and the schedules are awful.
I've heard talk of unionizing the industry but no one cares enough about their job to go to the lengths one would have to go to in order to unionize. There are no industry leaders or mentors, no one to go to with issues. It's a terrible job that most aides hate doing. But they're stuck in it.