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He has Alzheimer’s and didn’t recognize me as his wife. He thought our sons were boyfriends and would threaten to burn our house down. That’s why he can’t come home, but it hurts me. We’ve been married almost 34 years.
No it is a burden you will have to Cary with you the rest of your life. Watching someone you love die is something you can never prepare for. The only thing you can do is find a place to put those feelings so you can move on with your life and love again
I believe you are right sample. I am journaling which helps me put my grief down and it makes me feel better for a little while. Thank you for responding.
Just because you did your best and made the right decisions to keep your husband safe and cared for doesn’t mean it won’t continue to cause sadness. I’m sorry for both of your pain in this. Life threw you both an unwanted diagnosis and sad circumstance. Limit the time you listen to the requests to come home, they only cause more frustration to you both and don’t help anything. Remind yourself often that you’re still caring for him. I wish you both peace
Thank you Daughterof1930 Though it’s difficult sometimes to get off the phone or leave the NH when my husband starts begging me to get him out of there, I must do it. You are right! Limiting the time I’m listening to it is a must so I can keep my mental health. This is one of the most difficult things I’ve ever walked through. I appreciate you for taking your time to respond. Sharing helps.
Of course your heart is aching. The man you love and married is no longer the man he is today. And that sucks. Dementia sucks! You are grieving and rightfully so, and grief doesn't go away for a long time, so be kind to yourself. You made the right decision to place your husband where you knew he would be safe and taken care of and where you would be safe as well. Placing a loved one is hard no matter the circumstances, but I hope and pray that you can finally come to terms with the fact that you did what was best for all involved and have peace in your heart about that. May God bless and keep you as you continue on this difficult journey with your husband.
Thankyou Funkygrandma59 I know deep down I made the right decision. I’m just not use to this heart ache that comes with it. I pray for others going through this. Alzheimer’s is so cruel for the person diagnosed but also for the family. I’m so thankful you shared your thoughts and encouragement and prayers. Thank God for this forum and people like you!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Thank you for responding.
Though it’s difficult sometimes to get off the phone or leave the NH when my husband starts begging me to get him out of there, I must do it. You are right! Limiting the time I’m listening to it is a must so I can keep my mental health. This is one of the most difficult things I’ve ever walked through. I appreciate you for taking your time to respond. Sharing helps.
You are grieving and rightfully so, and grief doesn't go away for a long time, so be kind to yourself.
You made the right decision to place your husband where you knew he would be safe and taken care of and where you would be safe as well.
Placing a loved one is hard no matter the circumstances, but I hope and pray that you can finally come to terms with the fact that you did what was best for all involved and have peace in your heart about that.
May God bless and keep you as you continue on this difficult journey with your husband.
I know deep down I made the right decision. I’m just not use to this heart ache that comes with it. I pray for others going through this. Alzheimer’s is so cruel for the person diagnosed but also for the family. I’m so thankful you shared your thoughts and encouragement and prayers. Thank God for this forum and people like you!