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I just want to thank everyone for taking the time to answer our questions.


I'm new at carving for my dad. Today it will be one week. Moving him from out of state after my mom died and getting him into what seems to be, a loving facility has been one of, if not the most stressful weeks of my life.


And I know there will be more obstacles ahead of us. But I've been reading through this forum for the past couple of days, and I have read so many helpful answers. It's helping me get prepared mentally for situations that might come up and realize that I'm not alone. Also, it could be a lot worse.


I believe I have found the ticket. Where I can come to if I'm overwhelmed and just need to vent. If I need answers to questions that none of my friends know how to answer. I'm amazed at how quick everyone is to share their advice, their experiences and to help uplift people they have never met.


So, thank you, and God bless you all.

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You’re very welcome. I wish you and your family all the best.
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One thing I've learned from everyone already is to set my boundaries. 
I know that I have a lot to do, but my hands are tied until the POA papers are signed next week. 
I took dad to get groceries today, and when they were unpacked, I asked him if he'd like to go downstairs in the common area to play some cards until 11 am. I told him Saturdays are my cleaning days so I can't usually come on Saturday.
While we were playing cards, I knew people would be around and I wanted to give them a heads up that dad is deaf, he's not ignoring you (:
And within a few minutes dad met a fellow marine, my dad is a proud marine and wears his hat with pride. Dad's new friend Ed invited dad to the veterans coffee, donut and "bull----" get together the last Monday of every month
!!!!! Dad will enjoy it there, I just know it!
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How kind of you to let us know anything might help.
Hope you join because your own advice on your journey will come, and you can share it. We all started out where you are.
Please do stay, help answer, ask questions, vent and be a member of the community. Many of us here have know one another more than 5 years.
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Glad you found the forum. Many of us have been blessed by excellent advice and compassion here. Wishing you the best navigating your father’s new plans
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I am so Glad you got your faith back in Humanity Nacy - I hear You .
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Thank you for being Here Kweimer , someone On Next door was having a difficult time Last Night and reaching Out for help - I helped her the best I could with a couple phone Numbers of People to call - her Mom Has dementia and the caretaker was Losing It . I was Lucky I was very distraught around July 2021 - Went to the Chiropractor - 3 chiropractors - I was In Harvard square , Cambridge , MA. and Thats where my Mom and I would go when I was a child and I prayed to my Mom Because I did Not Know what to do ? Then I read a Book on Dementia , stopped at a church read More of the Book, walked to Central square - sat in front of another church - read some More . Caught the Subway walked to Boston Common sat by the duck Pond read More of the book and I Got 2 phone calls . These were the care advisors from Boston senior home care and I talked for 45 Minutes and said " I Really do not want to go Home . " Went to another chiropractor got a call from a social worker with a support group . The Next day got a call at 4PM " That My Dad was in the ER and to come Immediately " he had a stroke and was found on the street . And at least I got Nurses, a CNA , case manager and finally some support . This is a great forum and the advice is solid .
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It does take a village.
I have always said when faced with something why blaze a new trail when you can walk one that has been made. At some point someone else has gone through a similar situation and you can use what they learned to help yourself.
What you need to remember are BOUNDARIES.
A few other tid bits of knowledge.
You can't do it all yourself.
2 of the most difficult things about caregiving are...Asking for help and Accepting help.

Now you can share what you have learned with others,.
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I'm so happy that this forum helped you. I wish I had known about it back in 2016 when both my broke/in debt, sick and cognitively declining inlaws were imploding at the same time. I learn a new and helpful thing here almost every day.
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