My 90 yr. old father is suffering from dementia. He is living at home with my sister. He has progressively lost the ability to verbalize, other than to curse. He stopped eating 2 days ago, and refuses to allow anyone to check him, he just moans & curses. He became violent when she tried to take him to the ER last night, and hit her. What do we do? I live 100 miles away.
Still, IMO, if he is aggressive, call 911 and let them take him to an emergency room. They can ensure he is fed properly, and comfortable whether or not he is in the active dying phase.
If you live in the USA and you call 911 from any state. Make sure you tell them that he lives in another state, so they do not use enhanced 911 to send the ambulance to your house, instead of your sisters.
Can sis call for an ambulance to transport him to the hospital? Are his other functions working? Breathing, urinating, moving his bowels, etc? It could be ANYTHING. I think a trip to the ER might be in order along with a hospice eval after he is discharged.