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My husband has advanced Lew Body and all I want to do is hide from him

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Your feelings are normal; everyone would like to escape from a person who is angry or lashing out, even if you realize intellectually that it's the disease that causing the outbursts.
Do you have any assistance at all? Consider some in-home caregiving assistance if you are able to pay for it. Perhaps you might be eligible for Medicaid services? It's impossible for one person to see to the needs of a person with this type of dementia, especially as it advances. You may need to speak with an elder care lawyer. Or perhaps you can ask your primary care physician for a recommendation for a social worker, who might then be able to recommend resources for assistance.
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Reply to Tynagh
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Hi, this is absolutely normal, there is another girl on here , husband I think was diagnosed with Lewy body, but I could be wrong. She has had to put her husband in a facility, I'm hoping she sees this and adds to what everyone has said.

Lewy body is hard, her husband actually almost really hurt her, I'm not sure the whole story but she had to call the neighbor to snap him out of it, it was a very dangerous situation, so please be careful.

Let us know more about your self , and what is actually going on.

Welcome to our forum.
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Reply to Drivingdaisy
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There are Lewy Body dementia patients in my husband's memory care unit. They are well cared for by a staff of caregivers 24/7. If you're attempting to take care of him yourself, there is no way that you can provide the quality of care that he'd get in a facility. You're attempting to do the work of half a dozen caregivers, at least.

Time to place him. I'm sorry. You are normal. You haven't failed at anything. Some diseases present terrible caregiving dilemmas, and Lewy Body is one of them.
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I'm afraid that we don't know you well enough to know how "normal" you are, but your response is certain one of the basic human responses of "fight or flight". Can you tell us a bit more about your situation, how long you've been dealing with it, and what your goals are for a future you can live with? You don't have a real question at the moment it seems, but we surely acknowledge the desperation of your statement.

We are human beings with human limitations. There isn't a ONE OF US that hasn't experienced the feeling of wanting to run away, to hide, to pull the covers over our head and hide.
My heart goes out to you.
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You are overwhelmed by it all and because you say in your profile that you suffer from anxiety disorders, of course you would want to hide from him.
BUT, in all reality with all that your husband is going through with his dementia, he really does need someone to be present with him to make sure that he's kept safe and being well taken care of.
And if that person can't be you then it's time to either hire full-time help for you both or place him in a memory care facility, where he will be taken care of 24/7 and where you can get back to just being his loving wife and advocate and not his overwhelmed, and fear stricken caregiver.
The only upside here is that Lewy Body dementia is one of the most aggressive dementias with a life expectancy of just 5-7 years, so hopefully this road you're on won't last much longer.
In the meantime though it's important that you now do what is best for both you and your husband. And I wish you well in deciding just what that is.
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Reply to funkygrandma59
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Of course you’re normal, it’s the circumstances you’re living in that aren’t normal. Your profile includes a long list of issues you’re dealing with for your husband, simply too much for any one person to handle. I hope you’ll get some help and not continue to try handling all this on your own. Call your local Council on Aging to start and ask about services in your area. Consider if it’s time for husband to move into full time care. Guard your health, for you will not get it back.
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