My mom was admitted to hospital because her blood cell count was at 6.1, they have treated her for that and she is doing well, but while here she has had a stroke which has affected her right side. Among other test done, they think she might have cancer but we will know more once we get the results. Now the Doctor suggest she be transferred her to a rehabilitation to get care for her stroke, my mom does not wish to go to a place like that because have had bad experience and we have heard other people bad stories, I really don't know what to do
Make up a checklist, including factors already mentioned in the above posts. Add questions like nurse to patient ratio, aide to patient ratio, whether or not meals are in a common dining room or served in the patient's room, whether there's a chef on site or if meals are purchased precooked and merely heated up (that could be a bad sign as we experienced one where the meals were so bad they were inedible).
Find out what activities are available for moral support - music, pet day, etc.
The rehab facility where I take my father is in a rural setting on one side with an urban setting on the other side. The configuration of the facility provides for outdoor views for every room. This last time my father saw wild turkeys, deer, sandhill cranes and little critters in the area.
Meals are designed by a chef; there are standard meals but also a la carte menus, and are served either in a patient's room or common dining areas.
My father had a private room; many others did. Each room has not only its own bathroom but a shower so common shower areas don't have to be used.
Tour all the facilities under consideration. A discharge planner can give you lists of rehab facilities, but don't rely on their opinions.
Most likely she would be scripted for home care therapy to continue where facility rehab leaves off, but she'll make more progress in a facility because she'll get more therapy, more medical support, more activities and social interaction, and can spend more time resting, a very important consideration.
If you have video capability in your phone or camera, take videos to show your mother. Visit at dinner time to observe how many nurses and aides are around the area, especially after dinner time when bathroom needs can demand a lot of staff support.
I was very glad she was in rehab when those symptoms (delusions, agitation, extreme anxiety ) emerged. Rehab was able to do metabolic testing to make sure there wasn't a uti or electrolyte balance provlem. There was a geriatric psychiatrist on call to start and manage medications on site. The nurses were able to explain to us how to handle mom's symptoms. Couldn't have managed this at all at home.
The docs need to tell mom she needs to go to rehab, not you. Let them be the bad guys.
Cleveland Clinic Hospital, by any chance.
Problem is highly rated rehabs, usually have a waiting list (and for good reason), while lower rated ones, don't.
If that bed is refused, the hospital can no longer keep the patient and he/she is discharged back to home. Then it would be up to the family to find an open bed, but hospitals get first priority to that bed. And the family would need to find transportation to that facility.
Life can get so complicated at times.
My Dad had rehab after having surgery, the place was built back in the 1950's and it looked it. But Dad really liked his physical therapists, enjoyed all the meals, but was pretty bored the times inbetween. But he needed to rest, and that was the purpose of living in a rehab facility for about 3-weeks. The Staff was so very caring.
My Mom, on the other hand, didn't like visiting the rehab center that my Dad was in, because it was so old looking... plus all the people in wheelchairs... etc. Well, it's not a resort so that is to be expected. Dad went in with a positive outlook of wanting to get well and be back home.
One time after Dad had a heart attack, prior to the above surgery, Mom refused to have him live in a rehab facility. She thought she could do everything he needed, she was 90. The physical therapists would come to the house, but since they didn't have the large equipment to use, it took Dad longer to heal. And Dad didn't get much needed rest as Mom needed Dad to help her with this or that.... [sigh]. And Dad being Mr. Fix-It probably was doing repair work he shouldn't been doing.