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Being my mom's caretaker has taken away my freedom and a chance to have a relationship with my family and SO.

Then just stop. No where is it written that we are obligated to care for our parents when they age.
Your an adult and apparently you need to learn the NO. It's one of the most powerful 2 letter words there is, and you'll love using it once you get used to it.
So give it a try and get back to your family and SO, before it's too late.
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A bit more info would help but...
Being a caregiver does not mean you have to do this yourself. It also does not mean that you have "failed" as a caregiver if you can no longer manage her care yourself in your home or hers.
Placing someone in a facility that is dedicated to the particular level of care that is needed is doing the right thing as a caregiver. It also does not mean that your "job or duties" end, as a matter of fact they can get even more challenging as you are now a Care Manager and have to deal with a whole host of other problems.

Please reassess your priorities and take care of yourself and your immediate family, they come first.
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That sounds bad. Time to make some changes? I know it’s hard. But only you can do it.
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If you give us more details we can give you more possible strategies to recover your life.

I'm so sorry for your circumstances. There's lots of support and info on this forum.
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Do you have a question for us, because in all honesty this is exactly what 24/7 caregiving often does to a single person.
In reality people are all over this country attempting to care 24/7 for a person who REQUIRES the care of several shifts of several people each at a minimun.
It is NOT sustainable, and eventually any being will break under it.
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