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Are you talking about a sit-to-stand machine or a total lift? A sit-to-stand is obviously inappropriate for anyone who can not reliably stand and bear weight, it's up to the DON to veto this because of liability to both the facility and the staff.
It doesn't matter how old we get, it is so very important to keep as mobile as possible, so we don't lose what little mobility we may have. I have been visiting a 101 year old woman who up until a month ago was living on her own in her own house and was getting around her house using her walker and got around fine, even though slower than perhaps you or I would be. However she ended up in the hospital and her niece decided it best that she now move into an assisted living facility which she is slowly adjusting to. But her facility is now wanting to keep her in a wheelchair and not let her use her walker to even just get around in her room. And she is mad as hell about that, as she wants to try and stay as active as she possible can. And since I am just a "friend" I have absolutely no say in the situation. I can only imagine that one or both of this woman's daughters are her POA so ultimately they may have the final say.
It sounds to me like the daughters don't want to let mom go. I don't suspect they are very young either.
From little that you said, it sounds like it's time to just let mom be , rest and giving peace to not have to get up for the bathroom. Maybe it's time for hospice.
I'm not sure if there is anything you can do here, other than encourage the daughters to accept that mom will not always be here.
It sounds on the little you have provided here, that the daughters are in a good bit of denial, and believe that their mother might go on forever, or that anything they might do or fail to do now would make a difference? Let us say she had the daughter/s at about age 40, then they are none too young themselves, are they? And may not be great at these decisions.
I am uncertain what "machine" you speak of, so I wish you'd tell us more about it. Is this a simple lift device such as a Hoyer? Is this 100 year old lady still continent (Guinness world record book then, for a woman who gave birth still having bladder stength/control at 100 that's good enough to await caregivers and their "machine").
You say that the daughters insist and that YOU don't agree. The point here, then, is-------WHO IS "the decider" or the person in charge. Daughter? Then they decide. You? Then you decide.
To be honest, it doesn't much matter WHAT choice is made at 100. Yes, the movement is good for us all. Prevents sores, helps circulation, gets lungs expanding, keeps our muscles and tendons from severely contracturing. But if mama is distressed, hurt, angry or difficult about this, then it seems to make little sense to distress her. If you are in a position to make this decision, then do it your way. If the daughters are, then bow out; it's their busines. I do wish all the best.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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I have been visiting a 101 year old woman who up until a month ago was living on her own in her own house and was getting around her house using her walker and got around fine, even though slower than perhaps you or I would be.
However she ended up in the hospital and her niece decided it best that she now move into an assisted living facility which she is slowly adjusting to.
But her facility is now wanting to keep her in a wheelchair and not let her use her walker to even just get around in her room. And she is mad as hell about that, as she wants to try and stay as active as she possible can. And since I am just a "friend" I have absolutely no say in the situation.
I can only imagine that one or both of this woman's daughters are her POA so ultimately they may have the final say.
From little that you said, it sounds like it's time to just let mom be , rest and giving peace to not have to get up for the bathroom. Maybe it's time for hospice.
I'm not sure if there is anything you can do here, other than encourage the daughters to accept that mom will not always be here.
Let us say she had the daughter/s at about age 40, then they are none too young themselves, are they? And may not be great at these decisions.
I am uncertain what "machine" you speak of, so I wish you'd tell us more about it. Is this a simple lift device such as a Hoyer?
Is this 100 year old lady still continent (Guinness world record book then, for a woman who gave birth still having bladder stength/control at 100 that's good enough to await caregivers and their "machine").
You say that the daughters insist and that YOU don't agree.
The point here, then, is-------WHO IS "the decider" or the person in charge.
Daughter? Then they decide. You? Then you decide.
To be honest, it doesn't much matter WHAT choice is made at 100. Yes, the movement is good for us all. Prevents sores, helps circulation, gets lungs expanding, keeps our muscles and tendons from severely contracturing.
But if mama is distressed, hurt, angry or difficult about this, then it seems to make little sense to distress her.
If you are in a position to make this decision, then do it your way. If the daughters are, then bow out; it's their busines.
I do wish all the best.