My Dad passed away tonight, and I am in bits because we had left the nursing home just 20 mins before. He seemed settled, and I thought he had a day or 2 left, but I got the call in car and feel so guilty. I wish the nurse could have been a bit more specific as to how long he realistically had left, because I would have stayed.
Anyway, I guess this is just to say that we thought she had round-the-clock care and she still managed to be alone when she actually died. Having been through that experience with her, I really do believe what I've heard about dying being work, the way labor is, and something every person ultimately does alone, even with loved ones right there at your bedside. If that makes any sense.
My dad died in his sleep so I wasn’t there and didn’t get to say goodbye. It is what it is.
You didn’t fail your dad! He loved you so much that he made sure you wouldn’t watch his death. This really was a gift to you. I promise.
If you were just there 20 minutes earlier, how can you possibly feel guilty?
You didn't cause it, nor had any control over it. Of course if you KNEW the exact time, you would have stayed. You came in awful close to me. You did good.
So sorry for your loss.
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