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If grandpa is on Hospice it might be possible to ask the Hospice Social Worker to help out.
But the person with all the "power" in this is the POA or Guardian.
Maybe you can ask for a monitored or supervised visit.
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Is it possible to ask her under what conditions she would let him come say goodbye.

My sister wouldn't let people come visit her and it made my heart ache that she chose to not let someone say "I'm sorry, I love you."

Life happens and chit happens, sometimes we have to let go but keep our boundaries, maybe those two could let it go for a short time.
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I think that the best and easiest way to reassure the person who wants to block you from visiting is to offer to see the loved one accompanied by the "objecting relative" and reassure that you will not be bringing up uncomfortable or disagreeable subjects.
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Sounds as if this granddaughter will not be convinced .
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The daughter might be petty and spiteful, or she might have genuine concerns that a relative appearing after eight years with no communication would be upsetting to the dying man. I'm sorry about the estrangement but if it hasn't been resolved for the past eight years, the step-grandson would be best to just accept it as a regrettable thing in life and move on.
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Therebis nothing he can do. Her house and the keeper of the gate. Maybe she figures he hasvnot been around for 8 years, why now.
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My step kids grandfather is passing. The two adult kids don't speak to each other. The step son wants to see his grandpa but the step daughter will not allow him to see the grandpa. It's difficult since the step son hasn't seen the grandpa in 8 years nor has had any communication with him, but wants to see him before passes. Unfortunately, the step daughter has the grandpa in her home so it makes the step son impossible to see the grandpa.
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We need more info. Who is the family member to you? Does the person not allowing you to see LO hold POA. How is that person related to LO? What is the reason you are given?
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I suspect we need more information.

Is there an estrangement between yourself and the ailing family member that would prevent them from wanting to see you? Is it in their best interest to see you? Were you wronged and want to forgive them? Did you wrong them and want to ask their forgiveness?

I guess all you can do is ask whomever is managing access to them. But I would do so with caution depending on why you feel like you would need to convince someone vs just having free access.

And I would take no for an answer if that is what is given.
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