My father recently had a stroke, Mom is handicapped with leg ulcer and heart problems. My 2 grown brothers, 43 and 47 still live with them in their house. The 47 year old is mentally Ill, but does most of the care giving when I am not there. The other brother is a drug addict that has never worked and manipulated my Mom all his life. Dad came home from transitional care 2 weeks ago. The brother that is the drug addict has been asked to move, hundreds of times, he recently gave Dad too much of a sleeping pill on purpose (mom doesnt think so) he also has been verbally abusive to both Mom and Dad. Mom has asked him to move and he just overlooks her. Any ideas of how I can get my brother removed from the house before he hurts either of my parents?
they loved teir grand parents but now the grandparents are
even removing themselves from me and the kids on holidays
under my brothers control
He has lived with them now 8 years and now is unemployed a
year and they think he is walt disney himself
thanks,
Lilli
I think any kind of eviction proceeding along with a restraining order are tackling the wrong side of this problem. Your mother is enabling your bad brother's behavior and is likely in denial. If she is still of sound mind (sounds like her problems are only physical) then she can legally unseat the eviction and the restraining order by refusing to sign the documents unless YOU are the owner of the home and have custodial rights for your mom and dad. The solution I recommend is to get your mom and dad out of harm's way. Can you work with your local Dept of Aging to place them in an Assisted Living facility? Since your "good" brother has his own problems he may not be a fit caregiver so this will help your case. You may be able to get him into a group home where he will be safe and functional. that will leave your "bad" brother to fend for himself in a home that he neither owns nor has any financial interest in. A good estate/elder law attorney can assist you with that part but work on getting mom, dad, and good brother placed in Assisted Living first and do not give them any clues about how you will handle "bad" brother when the time comes. Oh yes! Begin to document everything bad brother does, like messing with your dad's medication or stealing money from them. You need to make a strong case for abuse if you need to get law enforcement involved. But concentrate on getting mom and dad out first.