How to I get more done wthout me doing all the footwork, especially when I have never been through this. One part of family does nothing, the other does what they can...I stay in a constant state of of where, when, what? I am literakkt hainv a nervous breakdown......I need help I am dealing with their affairs, ande mine, I dont' mind, but at times, the walls are clsing in.
Take care of yourself - and the rest will make more sense.
Carol
I'm sorry
Go to griefshare.org for support groups in your area that can help you heal. You shouldn't be going to through this alone, but you also need time for yourself to process back-to-back losses.
I've gone through a similar experience within a span of 10 months. The first was the hardest. Just when I was starting to reach acceptance and begun to move on, the 2nd loss slapped me numb 4 months later. I'd be walking down the street and blank out; as if having an out of body experience. I reached out to "friends" and some family members but was treated like a leper; others couldn't care less and kept asking what if their apartments had been taken and/or how I was planning to dispose of the property left behind. The 3rd loss, 5 months after the 2nd, sent me to therapy for PTSD. I snapped, began to lash out, and almost ended up in prison for violence I never thought I'd be capable of.
So please, let others help you. I'm here. The AgingCare family is here. Most of us might not be an only child, but it sure feels like that sometimes.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
-- Ed