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Somewhere, respectfully, why do you care? This is the MIL your DH moved into your house without your agreement, has commandeered your LR with a bed, shower and commode, and you have caregivers & DH to attend to her. I would acknowledge her presence (how can you not when she’s underfoot, and disrupted your house) but not care one iota about her care or mental state. I’m sorry but this and your other posts on this situation have my bp up this morning. That house would just be a roof over my head until I found a way out. I’m sorry you’re in this position.
Rocket, you’re right. It was very early this AM when I posted my answer and I didn’t realize this was the OP from the “husband met with sisters without me..., etc.” post. To be brutally honest, I don’t see OP doing anything to change her situation, do you? She’s not going to leave her home and move out. She will be on her hand and knees scrubbing the pot and probably also scrubbing MIL until MIL passes. We will get the intermittent posts asking for advice that will not be taken if even read. This is one of those posters who just make you (((sigh))).
I stood outside Moms bathroom until she was finished and then went it to make sure she cleaned up correctly. She would run the water washing her hands forever if I wasn't there.
I am really sorry about your situation. Its hard enough caring for someone but to have caring thrust upon you is awful. I said this before, your husband choice his responsibility. But that doesn't mean you still won't have questions. You are living in the house. This is how I look at it. Yes he should have discussed it with you and you have a right to be mad. You are married though. Do you love him? Then support him. Let him do most of the work but that doesn't mean u can't help without being involved with her care. I understand that your home is topsy turvey but it won't be forever. She will eventually need care that your husband will not be able to give. One bit of advice, keep opinions to urself. I didn't appreciate my DHs suggestions especially when he had no idea how Dementia progresses.
If Mother has dementia, consider that people with this disease can be very childlike. Many of us have had friends whose children, as babies. “finger painted” with feces.
If you have real concerns that this may happen again, do not leave Mother unsupervised in the bathroom. You can give her privacy, but monitor her.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I am really sorry about your situation. Its hard enough caring for someone but to have caring thrust upon you is awful. I said this before, your husband choice his responsibility. But that doesn't mean you still won't have questions. You are living in the house. This is how I look at it. Yes he should have discussed it with you and you have a right to be mad. You are married though. Do you love him? Then support him. Let him do most of the work but that doesn't mean u can't help without being involved with her care. I understand that your home is topsy turvey but it won't be forever. She will eventually need care that your husband will not be able to give. One bit of advice, keep opinions to urself. I didn't appreciate my DHs suggestions especially when he had no idea how Dementia progresses.
If you have real concerns that this may happen again, do not leave Mother unsupervised in the bathroom. You can give her privacy, but monitor her.