Mom is 89 and has moderate dementia. She needs someone to be at the house with her 24 hours a day. She has 12 hours of caregivers daily but someone needs to be there overnight. A live-in person could live there rent free and only help to get her to bed.
Any suggestions?
Ideal!
I would speak with them about recommendations.
It's always hard to vet folks who are good. People who take on overnight work sometimes work too jobs and are too sleep.
Rent free doesn't work. Would you stay up wondering, watching and worry just so you could live in someone else's home, and work full time the next day somewhere else?
You understand, I know, the enormous expenditure you are looking at. When my friend was in hospice a few years ago she needed 24/7 care to be home. Two women worked EVERY DAY, 12 hour shifts together, 20 hour plus they always had food brought in. And even at that fair--ever cheap--rate, the money hemorrhaged out of her accounts.
Has there been any consideration of memory care, nursing home, Board and Care or ALF?
I can only wish you good luck. The usual places, Care.com and agencies in your area, next-door, recommendations are there, but everything today is so unreliable. It's really tough.