My mother lied about me telling APS I was abusing her, THAT I pushed her down to the ground, left her in chairs to pee her pants and more derogatory comments of things that I did to her. I was so beside myself, Thankfully, They thru nothing against me for financial. I'm the one that actually called this facility to come out and help my mother. I am the last child out of 4 that is living, and i'm there taking care of her a couple people in my family that I don't particularly get along with one, is my mother's sister and her daughter, they started coming and visiting my mother after not coming over for years. Within living there for 3 years, taking care of her, I now have a restraining order. One month I'm outta there. I never cried so hard in my life. my mother has taken me off of durable power of attorney and financial and off of his executor of her will. those 3 things really didn't matter to me. What mattered to me is taking care of my mom. She is in starting stages of dementia. I am fighting this restraining order. I'm just getting information in affidavit's to have it overturned. and I am just sick to my stomach. How can they do this? How can adult protective services just come in and do this to people? Does this happen all the time. Does adult protective services get paid to do this kind of stuff. I mean, I know CPS when they get called for children. They get paid to put children in the system. I'm the one that called these people to come in and help my mother, why would they think I'm abusing her when I called them to come in and help her!
To me, were she my mother, I would consider it miraculous if APS intervened and took on mama. Good riddance.
I have no idea the connection here, nor if our OP LIVES with mother? But being rid of her and her problems would be, I would think lovely.
And no, APS isn't paid to intervene and doesn't GET MONEY. They are there to do their job and as I have said over and over on AgingCare, MOST people say that they will not intervene to do ANYTHING. The complaint we see here is that they simply walk away saying "everything is fine" or words to that effect.
I think you are an adult, C. You will have to make your own decisions in all this mess, and bear the responsibilities of those decisions.
I doubt you NEED an attorney and I doubt you would find one for free, but perhaps it is as you say, and I will wish you the very best of luck.
Your post is erratic and I can't really tell what you are saying, you should try to breathe and be more coherent with the Judge, it will serve you better.
EDIT: I just read your answer to JoAnn. If your mom is that awful, thank The Lord and walk away. Let her find out what she cares about can do for her. And DON'T put this on your own kids, they can do whatever they want.
You were cleared of financially taken advantage of her?
Her sister and daughter got involved and jow there is a restraining order placebon you? Meaning you can't contact your Mom? And why can you jot contact Mom, because you abused her?
Who is caring for her if you aren't. Do you feel she is being coerced into changing her Will and POA?
I think you need a lawyer. If your Mom was diagnoised with a Dementia, she may not have been able to change her Will or POA. You need answers and a lawyer will get them before you. Therebis legal aid if you can't afford one. They work on scale.
I'm getting off point here, but you are right, correct, and I am hiring a lawyer. There's a lot I did not know that I could do I could have called the police after I was pushed out of the house of false accusations. i'm hoping time has not ran out. i will let you know when I get more information on what will happen. I am contesting the will when she passes. Because I was told by a lawyer that as long as I was in there in the first place and because of the dementia even though she was not diagnosed as of yet we can still go from there because I do have a letter from the doctor and friends and the boys that would come over and pick her up off the floor. A lot of things that I have to back myself up. the will was nothing I ever cared about but after dealing with this, for 56 years and my mom making my life very hard in all that time I'm gonna fight for it now.
I have to stand up for myself. thank you for reading and responding. I really appreciate your help. That's why I joined the site. Take care have a great day!! This is a positive venture, something good always has to come out of something bad. I always believed and paying it forward is always a good feeling.
Also there is a website i went on to and i'm able to get a lawyer for free to help me with this. thank you again
Can you enumerate them for us?