He's not fearful but he's always wondering if they have left...or where they are..or if i bring him food or beverage he asks if I gave those guys some too??? Not sure how to handle this...he says he never sees them but just knows they are here?? Thank you
Peace.
One of the old ladies in my ex's AL thinks she invited people to a party and now they won't leave. She has told my other daughter that she wishes the people would go home, However, she is a very socially correct person. During dinner she will go by each table, thanking them for coming and hoping they are enjoying themselves. Again, everyone just goes along with it.
Neither one is angry or violent. That is an entire different ballgame. As long as your husband is not angry, just go along with it.
NOW is the moment to get him on a correct medication, anti-depressant or whatever a neuro-psychiatrist or geriatric doctor recommends. These drugs make world of difference.
And, yes, until that is resolved, go along with it in a gentle way as others here recommend. Good idea!
Consider SunnyGirl's advice seriously. Although Dad's delusions never became violent, as his dementia progressed he eventually became aggressive to my mother, throwing stuff at her and then a very hard shove that resulted in a bad fall - almost down a flight of stairs (Mom caught herself with the handrail).
My MIL used to talk to the birds - invite them to dinner. Life is so much easier if you just learn to go along with it. You can talk 'till you're blue in the face, but that won't change what has become "real" to them. God bless you and give you patience as you care for your husband. 💙
In the meantime, I might try to stay calm, not disagree and try to work through it. Maybe, just say that those guys don't eat much and that they are kind and peaceful.