She complains a lot, and when I tell her to quit complaining and try to be more positive, she says I am a bad daughter, that I don't want to listen to her. She lives at her home with my dad. My dad is not the best caregiver, and Mom is mad at him a lot, too. I can understand some of her frustration with him, but why does she get mad at me so much? The big thing she says to me all the time is that I'm disrespectful to her, that she would never say what I say, to her mother...I don't know what I'm saying, other than telling her that she complains too much. I know she is depressed - she sleeps a lot and stays in the bed all day. I am an only child with 3 small children of my own.I don't know what to do or how to handle her. Please help!
So back to your original question--I think this is just it my dear!
We try the best we can and as we need time--we just take it. I have been to therapists, I am on an anti depressant, and I really help her as much as I possibly can--but at the end of the day it is never enough....I am worn out. I drive her to the far away doctors appts I even left my son sick at home. My husband takes off early for work to pick up the kids so I can be with her. And she says my husband doesn’t care. I don’t know what they want from people. She doesn’t want to talk to her brother or sister. And no one has offered to help me at all--I have called them up crying on more than 1 occasion and they never even call me back to see how I am doing or how my mom is--so I am all alone with this. I know at this point I have a clear conscious that I can really not do anymore. And at the end of the day you feel the same we don’t have anymore to give!
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good luck:)