My mother has becoming increasingly aggressive bc I won’t take her home. She is home. Can anyone suggest what I do if this continues and she and I can’t take anymore? I know if that happens she will have to go from to a long term facility but that takes time. Are there any short term solutions to pursue in the meantime? Thanks
She KNOWS she is not home as clearly as you KNOW she is. You are on two separate frequencies. Rather than try to convince her, distract her. First agree so she is validated and then distract.
“I can’t wait to go home mom, as soon as they finish the flooring, we will head out. Let’s see if your program is on”.
“When the road is repaired or when the rain stops, we will leave early in the morning. Can you help me fold these towels?”
Or whatever you can think of that she enjoys or sounds plausible to her at this stage. You will be helping her pass this sticking point today. It will probably still recur for a few weeks more but instead of aggression you might only have to deal with disappointment or pouting which will be better than aggression. Don’t focus on making her understand (her brain is broken) focus on relieving her anxiety. Do what works. If your first attempt doesn’t work, just wait a minute and you can try another.
Look at Teepa Snow videos On YouTube. She is great at giving us tips to make life easier.