She thinks she can run my life. I'm presently blind in my left eye as nd have no pherifiual vision. But I'm very capable of careing for my self. In fact not only do I not look my age, I have more energy than both of them. I do the cooking, cleaning in my areas, laundry. So, here my question. She wants to controll everything I do, granted I can't drive, but I have been invited as a guest to a meet and greet of a famous TV personality. They have arranged for my transportation and also the personality person is treating me as a VIP.I HAVE not told her yet and it is this weekend.I already know her reaction, because she thinks everyone I talk to I online is a scammer. How do I tell her without a huge argument? It will ruin the whole lifetime experience. Thanks for any insight so I can take this off my bucket list.
I felt a red flag waving regarding meet and greet of a famous TV personality. Please be careful. Where is this meeting going to take place? If a studio or restaurant, call said places (do not use the telephone numbers "they" gave you) but search on-line for the numbers and see if they match. If the phone # doesn't match, call the place using the numbers you found on-line and see if said person is even going to be there.
If the famous TV personality is not scheduled to be at that location, then something is very wrong. Tell your daughter and son-in-law what is happening, maybe even calling the non-emergency telephone number for the police. You never know what people are up to these days. One thing our own parents use to warn us about "do not talk to strangers". That also holds true today.
Based on what you said in your post - it sounds like you were engaged and notified of this honor online? Please PLEASE be aware of how frequently people of any age are scammed online with 'honors" like this. I'll ask you a few questions.
Is this celebrity scheduled to be in your town on that date? Or are they providing air fare and hotel for you to come to them?
What is the reason that you are being honored with this visit? Why did they say that you received this award? Did you enter a contest? Or was this just out of the blue?
What are the logistics of this "lifetime experience"? Who is reaching out to you?
I'm not trying to make less of what you believe is an exciting opportunity. But in this case - if your daughter is concerned - I believe it may be for very good reason.
My mother is completely self sufficient. So is my DH. So are my daughters. But if one of them called and said that their favorite celebrity reached out and wants to meet them and is paying all expenses - I would FREAK OUT entirely because I would be worried that they were being scammed or worse..that they were being kidnapped and I would never see them again.
Please follow frequentflyers advice to confirm this isn't a scam.
Be thankful that they are willing to help you and have a sit down talk about boundaries and expectations, it will help all of you.
I just now go along pretending that all of this is real, and not a reality show.
But thank you for the reminder of how easy it is for lonely people to become prey.
On the other hand I am heartened that today I got to compliment TWO members for participating and commenting on our own suggestions. So heartening.
Whether our OP comes back or not this post is an excellent warning about the Celebrity Scam. Because no, freqflyer, lovely as we ARE, Brad Pitt doesn't want to meet us. Even George Clooney is taken.
Does your daughter not work because she cares for her husband? Problem with that, neither will have any quarters for Social Security when the time comes to retire. If she cares for her husband, it would be better to see if husband qualifies for in home help and she gets paid or Medicaid supplies an aide and she goes back to work.
You need to tell daughter that you are allowing her to live in your home. You are a grown adult and only 71, that is not elderly. You are still capable of running your life.
I agree with the others, this TV celebrity thing maybe a scam. If so, they are looking for money that you probably can ill afford to lose. Be careful.
this is the time you would be hiring an escort/security guard/driver to attend the event with you.
It is not unusual for people living the lifestyle of the entertainment industry to travel in these circles.
When is the event?
Our OP might wish to call that before buying her ballgown for the Oscars.