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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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Sticky situation. Is your dad trying to do the finances and then she gets verbally abusive toward him? She may do that with anyone helping with finances as it's something she's used to being in control of.
This may be something you have to do without mom, and just with dad if he's more receptive. If dad is receptive to your help, you may be able to get him to add your name to their checking and savings accounts and their bills as an authorized user for their financial safety. You have to go into the bank with him to do that. Get added for email, too, for statements and so you can help monitor and do whatever's needed. Call their bank and ask what's needed to do that, him or both of them.
If dad will also add you as an authorized user on all their bills, you can talk to those people whenever needed. You often just need phone approval with those companies (3 way calls work for many).
Most banks and companies understand cognitive decline, and often help adult children who are helping their parents.
Once you've got those things in place, you may want to try to talk with mom about letting you take care of these things for her and him now. If she still won't agree, you'll have to do a lot of that work behind the scenes with dad.
Do you have financial PoA for your parents? When my inlaws were showing signs of their dementia trainwreck we discovered boxes and boxes and boxes of checks she had ordered and obviously had misplaced. She'd record a check (partially) in one book from one box and then another from another box and book and on and on. She had $900+ in overdrafts. I took my laptop over there and showed her how easy it was to pay bills online automatically and that I did it that way too. Tell her she can still get the printed statements in the mail to review. Remind her how important it is not to miss paying insurances. This may take some of the negative attention off your dad. Good luck, let us know how it goes.
I had to show my mother mistakes she was making. Showed her bank statements with all sorts of charges they were doing because she was moving money into different accounts for no reason. I showed her the huge interest she was being charged by her credit card bank because she was keeping a small balance rather than paying it off. I showed her the organizations that were charging her monthly. I told her it was taking alot of my time and all of my equilibrium to deal with all this. I literally had the paperwork and showed her what she was doing and what it was needlessly costing her. .
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
This may be something you have to do without mom, and just with dad if he's more receptive. If dad is receptive to your help, you may be able to get him to add your name to their checking and savings accounts and their bills as an authorized user for their financial safety. You have to go into the bank with him to do that. Get added for email, too, for statements and so you can help monitor and do whatever's needed. Call their bank and ask what's needed to do that, him or both of them.
If dad will also add you as an authorized user on all their bills, you can talk to those people whenever needed. You often just need phone approval with those companies (3 way calls work for many).
Most banks and companies understand cognitive decline, and often help adult children who are helping their parents.
Once you've got those things in place, you may want to try to talk with mom about letting you take care of these things for her and him now. If she still won't agree, you'll have to do a lot of that work behind the scenes with dad.
Good luck.
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