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When I hit burnout I found emergency respite care, and when I began to feel frantic at the thought of my mom returning home I knew it was time to make it permanent. It wasn't an easy decision and there was a lot of self recrimination, I felt as though I'd dropped the ball with the finish line in sight. Of course hind sight is 20/20, the finish line was still 18 months away and there is no way I could have provided the level of care mom needed and received in the nursing home.
Since you say "Mum" I assume your from the UK. Since your health system works different than ours, not sure how your Caregiving system works. Here in the US this would be the time to make her stay permanent.
We have Assisted livings and Memory Care facilities for those who can afford to private pay. For those who need 24/7 care and have no money, we have Longterm care. Our States have Medicaid for those who can't afford it.
If you don't feel you can do it any longer, place Mum. Dementia is not easy to deal with. Its too unpredictable and you never get a break. Its a 24/7 commitment that most of us cannot do. You are entitled to a life.
Do what is best for your mom -- and if you are doubting your ability to continue to care for her, then what is best is for her to be in a place where those who have the skills are able to care for her.
If you can't cope with her coming back, then refuse to allow her back. While she's in respite, you should probably talk to a social worker at the facility she's in and tell them you won't be taking her back. They will help you in finding permanent placement for her.
If you haven't already, call the Age UK Advice Line at 0800 678 1602 for help with next steps.
If you're really dreading the end of respite care, it doesn't bode well for the future for you or Mum. Taking care of a parent sometimes means putting them in the hands of strangers and showing up regularly to ensure they're receiving the care they deserve.
Good on you for making use of respite care. Now take the next step in caring for yourself so you can continue caring for Mum - at a distance.
Make your plans now while you have the time. If you take her back, you might look back at this time and wonder why you didn’t make the decision when you had the chance. It is never easy and never guilt free.
Do not feel guilty. Speak with the case manager at the respite facility or if she is on hospice speak with the case mgr for her hospice care and, begin the steps to have her placed . They should be competent to advise you on options based on financial availability and placement availability.
In the meantime, be sure that you are getting support for yourself via your faith leaders and/ or hospice Chaplain and/ or social worker to address your grief, and caregiver exhaustion and, faith based support for you ...
Consider how you can lessen your caregiving load - services (housecleaning, yard/lawn, grocery delivery...) and helpers (family, friends, members of faith community, paid help...) - so you have a little time off daily and more time weekly. Ideally, you need enough people who know your mum's schedule and medications that they could take over if you were sick or injured.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
We have Assisted livings and Memory Care facilities for those who can afford to private pay. For those who need 24/7 care and have no money, we have Longterm care. Our States have Medicaid for those who can't afford it.
If you don't feel you can do it any longer, place Mum. Dementia is not easy to deal with. Its too unpredictable and you never get a break. Its a 24/7 commitment that most of us cannot do. You are entitled to a life.
Take this time to explore options.
While she's in respite, you should probably talk to a social worker at the facility she's in and tell them you won't be taking her back.
They will help you in finding permanent placement for her.
If you're really dreading the end of respite care, it doesn't bode well for the future for you or Mum. Taking care of a parent sometimes means putting them in the hands of strangers and showing up regularly to ensure they're receiving the care they deserve.
Good on you for making use of respite care. Now take the next step in caring for yourself so you can continue caring for Mum - at a distance.
Simple solutions to simple problems.
Speak with the case manager at the respite facility or if she is on hospice speak with the case mgr for her hospice care and, begin the steps to have her placed . They should be competent to advise you on options based on financial availability and placement availability.
In the meantime, be sure that you are getting support for yourself via your faith leaders and/ or hospice Chaplain and/ or social worker to address your grief, and caregiver exhaustion and, faith based support for you ...