My mother passed away in may of this year and my father has gone so far down hill. he says he has given up and ready to be with momma! My sister and my brother go over there but i cant i live in texas. I am very concerned he says he don't eat or shower ir anything else for that matter. he is really sick he has OCPD he only has 25% lung function and yes he smokes and drinks, he has for years! He is drinking away his pain!!! What do i do??? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
As Seastar says, it would be good if your local siblings could conact his doctor and either the Office of Aging or Social Services. Depression sounds likely.
So, see what can be done. But at some point, accept that Father may be justified in "giving up" ... it may be a matter of recognizing and accepting that his time is near. Again, age makes a big difference in this respect.
All the very best to you! It's a difficult journey, this gain and loss process. You are a very caring person to have asked about what to do. You got this, you can do it. :)