My 92 year old mother who now lives with me on the east coast because she was getting no help from my worthless brothers on the west coast, is now accusing me constantly of stealing money from her accounts. I love my mother very much and have not ask for a dime since she moved here, but it sure would be nice if I would offer something in return for all that I am doing for her. Not even a thank you....I am starting to resent having moved her here. Because she now thinks I have become the town thief, how do I proceed legally to become her power of attorney???? It's not a position I want but there is no one else to step up to it. Help.
It's not fun completing the process for your mom. Emotions get involved and the drama starts with family, hence stress.
Be sure your mom has a full medical and mental evaluation.
My experience with physicians evaluation, if she could count to 10, know her name, birthday, month and year, spell word "world" backword, then my moms comment back to physican _"you do it first" "lets see you do it" , she always passed the competences tests, but her judgements/decision making were "off"; and only people who are closes t mom, who know her or live with her realizes that. Best to you and hang in there..
Does Mom have money? Maybe a nice AL would be better. If she has enough money for two years or more, some facilities will take Medicaid after her money is gone. If they haven't hit the % of Medicaid residents they allow.
What do you think having POA will do for you? To handle her money or health she has to be deemed incompetent. It won't stop her from saying ur stealing her money. Maybe ur brothers had a reason not to help.
Mom needs a full workup. Labs and maybe a neurologist. And if you find there is no physical problems and its Dementia, you may be able to deal a little better and make better decisions.