My husband was hospitalized two weeks ago and is now in rehab, with the possibility of having to enter a skilled nursing facility. I find I am spending most of my time with him because I have to straighten out issues of care, such as correct medications, and his need of my presence. Now I realize I have to 'get a life' of my own again. I don't want to be a slacker in terms of my husband, but I am feeling depleted. Yet I also feel guilty if I'm not there for him. Curious to know how others transact similar situations. Thanks.
Imo you want to do whatever you can to encourage him in his rehab. I’d suggest you try to visit after a rehab session. Also like this week, try to have a off the record word with rehab staff (PT, OT, speech therapist) as to his “progress” to see how he’s measuring up.
You know him best, like if he needs a cheerleading squad or he’s more the type to need a goal or whatever to stay “progressing” in his rehab. You want him to stay in rehab and “progressing mode” for a long as possible. It rebuilds his ability AND gives you time to figure out what / how his move to becoming a resident of a NH or MC is going to get paid. Why?.... cause as long as he’s on rehab the initial insurers are paying till he stops progressing or times out in coverage. And if it’s Medicaid that’s going to be applied for, you will face the extra set of challenges in Medicaid planning ahead of filing his application to have you as a community spouse to keep or shift as much assets / income to you within Medicaid limits so you do NOT find yourself financially insure in your future.
Also try try to find out what this facility is doing for some sort of holiday family event and go to it. It gives you an opportunity to actually meet other families, especially others who are in the “community spouse” situation and can share their insights.