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Its probably stress and some anxiety. Are you Executor? Is probate completed? If not, not sure how they can sue? Were they left out of the Will? Or didn't get what they think they were due. Funny, maybe ur brother is entitled to something but we are not obligated to leave grandchildren anything.
I so hate that Wills are allowed to be contested. Wills are made for a reason. So the deceased wishes are carried out. If a child is left out, they are left out. But I do think a reason should be stated. "I leave my house to my daughter who has cared for me for 6 years. This is not to be contested".
If you are on Medicare you can set up your free annual wellness exam and have the anxiety discussion with your doctor. They might ask if you want to take the memory test but I wouldn't until after you've dealt with your stress, so that the test results aren't skewed from it.
Likely this is anxiety. Time to see your doctor, right?
If you are executor of your mom's will I can't see how YOU can be sued. Rathe, this would be a contest of a will, which is their right. DO LET THEM KNOW that your MOM's assets are what pay your attorney costs, so any money may go to attorney's, but that is what it is. It is very unlikely that ANY contest of a will can win.
However, you are unlikely to be able to sell mom's house, so get a rental agency to handle its rental and go back home. You may need medical supervision, but it is EXCEPTIONALLY unlikely, as much as anxiety disorder can mimic dementia (lost stuff and forgetfulness especially) that this is dementia.
Have you hired your own lawyer to help you through this lawsuit? You need help with the stress of being sued long before having dementia is considered. I wish you peace in the storm
Stress There is Nothing worse then having to go to court and deal with lawyers and Judges . Find a Lawyer to help you . You have been the Primary caretaker and probably Have some PTSD . I find when I am stressed or attacked my adrenaline goes right through the roof and I become forgetful . Sorry your Brother and his sons are suing you . Money certainly brings Out the dark side of greedy people . Find support , seek a therapist and someone to help you get through this rough time . I am Not Looking forward to when My Dad Passes because it will end up in Court . Do you have the will that states you get the house ? Also Find a acupuncture clinic or acupuncturist That can help you relax after a treatment and meditate . Or get into a form of exercise like swimming , Yoga, Biking or hiking . You're Overwhelmed and havnt had a break . Cleaning Out a House is big Job especially if you are doing that alone . Get someone to help you . I had to find 30 Documents for The lawyers, clean Out My Moms apartment , Move furniture and hire a Moving group . I was burnt Out and a Clean up crew was hired and took the other Half of her belongings . I gave her car away . You dont realize how Much work it is to clean out someones house . it is a Lot of work and then you will have to find the right realtor .
Pattycake, you have been under so much stress, 6 years is a long darn time, it could even be a form of PTSD from years of caregiving and not taking care of yourself. And now on top of it you are dealing with family bs. Of course your stressed. And you lost your mom Id be more concerned if you were thinking normal. Get some counseling and breathe. Then if your still worried go talk to your doctor.
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As for “is it Alzheimer’s?”, I heard a professor explain it like this:
If you can’t remember where you put your keys, that’s forgetting.
If you can’t remember what keys are for, that’s Alzheimer’s.
I so hate that Wills are allowed to be contested. Wills are made for a reason. So the deceased wishes are carried out. If a child is left out, they are left out. But I do think a reason should be stated. "I leave my house to my daughter who has cared for me for 6 years. This is not to be contested".
Time to see your doctor, right?
If you are executor of your mom's will I can't see how YOU can be sued.
Rathe, this would be a contest of a will, which is their right. DO LET THEM KNOW that your MOM's assets are what pay your attorney costs, so any money may go to attorney's, but that is what it is.
It is very unlikely that ANY contest of a will can win.
However, you are unlikely to be able to sell mom's house, so get a rental agency to handle its rental and go back home. You may need medical supervision, but it is EXCEPTIONALLY unlikely, as much as anxiety disorder can mimic dementia (lost stuff and forgetfulness especially) that this is dementia.
6 years is a long darn time, it could even be a form of PTSD from years of caregiving and not taking care of yourself.
And now on top of it you are dealing with family bs.
Of course your stressed.
And you lost your mom
Id be more concerned if you were thinking normal.
Get some counseling and breathe.
Then if your still worried go talk to your doctor.