Caring for my sister-in-law 53 has breast cancer psoriatic arthritis end stage liver failure. Worried about how it will affect my kids (college students) and her brother ( my husband) and my mom who lives with us. She's been on since the new year. We've been caring for her for 3 years but now she's suffering psychosis on top of everything so it's constant watching her. She keeps waking in the middle of the night trying to do things...nobody can sleep
I'm not familiar with your type of situation, but, due to your concerns, I was wondering if you had looked into a Hospice Center. I have been seeing where they have locations where those with terminal illnesses can stay. They allow family input and interaction to any degree the family wishes. Some of them are called Life Centers.
Hang in there!
This transition from actively trying to "fix" everything that goes wrong with SIL and now switching to trying to maximize her comfort is appropriate as she nears death. You are doing the right things for her. It is an adjustment in how you look at things, but I suspect your entire family can make this adjustment. Hang in there!
I think you have enough on your mind just taking care of SIL. Your adult children, your husband, and your mother will have to be responsible for their own reactions.
Hospice can help you and your family as well as your SIL, if you want them to. The social worker and/or the chaplain could meet with all of you as a family and discuss their concerns and explain what to expect.