Gday, backstory no dementia still pretty sharp great vitals yet anemic 9.5 last reading...Very little energy in bed 95% of time,rests 1/3 day sleeps 2/3 mostly during the day..We excercise most days,walk the hallway,leg lifts,arm lifts and practice sets getting up from side of bed..She can make back and forth to bathroom by herself most of the time a bit scary at night so she will call me in to help with depends and such...Appetite is sketchy it's hard to get 1300 calories a day into her..Big on supplements, green food,ensures,oj...loves waffles in am and meatloaf and potatoes 3 xs a week..Vitals are always perfect..Trying to figure out the normality of this, I'm her son caretaker..Any advice shares much appreciated..Hard to see her washed out, some days I think she will see 100 other days i'm hoping tomorrow....
Do you have lots in your life and sources of interest and joy? I hope so.
Your Mom is getting enough calories for someone who is sedentary. The first thing to give out is the legs. Good that you get her up and moving. She is 96. Let her do and eat what she wants. She has earned it. Your doing great.
The truth is that you can't know what's causing the anemia, but treatment of it would likely be more deadly than just kind of moving along with things.
Appetite and sleepiness will become more and more the norm. Often seniors wish to talk a lot less. They often do a sort of life reminiscence that's private to them, and that they enjoy. A sort of dreamy world.
I think my father was exhausted, and able to express that. He said he just wanted really to nap and longed for the last good nap. He died without pain in his easy chair. I felt only relief that any pain and loss was over for him, and for me standing witness to it.
I hope you will feel the same relief when your loved and lucky mom passes to that last long nap.
I wouldn't push food she doesn't want or like. Anything else she wants, let her have it. It's time for all things that bring comfort and nothing that does not bring it. Wish you both the best.