I blocked my mom's calls and texts because... well... I hate talking to her. She ALWAYS calls when it's inconvenient (meetings, dates, etc.) and she never has anything good to say. It's always because she needs something that she doesn't need right that second but demands it right then or she picks a fight. I just can't deal with it. I call her when I need to tell her something important and give her an opportunity to tell me something important but other than that I have no contact with her. I feel guilty about it sometimes, but my days have been better.
It could be a manipulative technique. But if she has handy resources and is calling you to test you, I hope you can resist the urge to answer. Good luck.
You are taking good care of your mother. I see absolutely nothing wrong with organising that to suit your own convenience.
I finally made the decision that my sanity was worth more and took a break from her. No calls for 6 mos while I worked on establishing boundaries with everyone - I was the most walked all over person ever. I tried again, and had to take another break. This was on and off for about 6 mos to a year at a time until she CHOSE to not be in contact with ME. I said that if she could not treat me with the decency she showed strangers, she could just not visit. She chose not to visit. 8 years later, Adult Protective Services called me to come rescue her from herself. She's been in a memory care unit here since, and I have been "taking care" of her better than she's ever taken care of herself.
I was able to do this only because I took care of myself first and learned what that looks like. Jesus said something along the lines of love your neighbor as yourself, but if you don't know what loving yourself looks like, it's really hard to show anyone love.
One day there will be an ultra-important call I’ll ignore, and that time there will be “real” trouble. But you can't ruin your nerves and life - it's sad, but sometimes that's the way it's going to go. Some things will just not end well, that's life.
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