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I became my grandmother's POA in 2023 that year she was tested cognitively and was able to make our own decisions financially and medically. So she decided to make a POA and since then I have been POA till my mother wanted to take charge and finally step up and take care of my grandmother well unexpectedly this happened and my grandmother's health declined dramatically after she started caring for her was against my wishes she had a POA made in 2001 listing her as medical power of attorney and of course financially. She had a paper say my grandmother had dementia but this was not from a neurologist and her slum scores on that document said it was 22 out of 30. I was unaware of this paper and a mother took it to her credit union and made them remove POA say she was incapacitated and could no longer sign any paperwork after that document she got in 2018. But I have documentation from the doctor that in 2023 she did not have any diagnosis concluding to dementia. I have my grandmother tested again in 2025 and her score has gone down to 6 out of 30 So I know that she is not in her right mind now to make a decision of having my mother care for her knowing that I will enforce my duty as her DPOA. Is there a way and go around doing guardianship or conservative ship when I have a notarized DPOA. Revoking any power of attorneys prior and she was competent but now she is not and I have documentation saying exactly that but nobody is helping me. CAN I petition the court to enforce the POA documents. Because now my mother Is is taking over her funds and isn't buying her necessities and I've contacted adult protective services and I'm still waiting on them.

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Your grandmother gave you both Financial and Medical in 2023? Your Mom has POA from 2001? Read your POAs, they should say that any previous POAs are revoked. Your POA overrides Moms. So now you need her to show the POA she claims to have. Like said, you may need a lawyer to request copies of her POA. If its found yours is the correct one, then a letter should be sent to Mom telling her she has been revoked. You then take your POA and that letter to all the places Mom has been and show them you are the legal POA. Make sure your POA is on file at grandmoms banks, doctors offices and hospital she may frequent.
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You should consult an attorney as regards this. Credit unions, as you might guess, cannot play around with POA papers. POA papers DONE BY AN ATTORNEY will stand the test. Those pulled offline and simple witnessed and notarized often will NOT stand the test. Since yours is the NEWER POA and you were not declined by your grandmother, yours may still be in effect.

I am glad that you have decided to tell all of this to APS. I hope with pauses, periods, punctuations it will make more sense, and you will have all your OWN papers ready.
Now this seems a battle over who can control the money? Because whomever wins that I hope they know they have an enemy in the wings who can bring them to court on a second's notice to prove they are keeping METICULOUS records of every single penny into and out of grandmother's accounts.

I was POA and Trustee for a meticulous, organized, cooperative man with no one saying me nay, and it was still a heck-of-a-job. If mom wants it and can give good care, let her have it.
If mom is fraudulent or abusive or not providing for decent care, call APS.

I wish you the best of luck and hope you will continue to update us, and am sorry for the mess you find yourself in.
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You will need an elder law attorney to probably send out a letter to your Mom telling her she needs to prove the validity of her PoA or else it will go to court. But your relationship with your Mom, it must already be bad because this will make it worse and she may not cooperate.

I would definitely go the bank with your PoA docs to stop your Mom's access. Not sure what they will do with "dueling PoAs" from the same family. If you have an actual diagnosis on your Grandma's clinic's letterhead and signed by the diagnosising doctor, that's pretty convincing (and usualy what' required to activate the authority).
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