In about 11 wks or less my sister, who is POA, is going away for the winter. I saw a surgeon yesterday and will be having another surgery(cancer 2 times) and I need to know what exactly will be happening with my Mom who still can not stay by herself. I had told another sister, who is not POA, that Mom will have to come home with me for a few days so that I can take my turn with her and specifically told my sister not to say anything to Mom until I myself talked with Mom...well my sister told Mom and she told another sister by no means will she go home with me or anyone else. I can not sleep at my Mom's and I have to get myself build up for the upcoming surgery or I'm not going to be any help to anyone.
My sister who is POA is dragging her feet and will not make any decisions. I even got some papers for Mom to go to a program that will keep her active in the day time and my sister will not fill out the papers--her being the POA, she's the only one that can. Thanks
Before leaving I told Mom she could come with me and she said no..but then hedged about where she would sleep at my house. We have an extra bedroom so she knows that is not a problem. Mom does have dementia with her Parkinson so I know it's hard for her to make a decision but my Sister should step up to the plate and make the plans.
When I went over to Mom's today I filled out some papers that I had gotten for my sister to fill out on Mom's finances so she can go to an Adult activity thing near our home town that will keep Mom's mind active plus help her with here physical well being ....I just took what my Mom said she had and what went out...my sister knows exactly what this stuff is but will not do it. I just can't believe we come from the same parents....she really could care less about this stuff and here she is going away for 5-6 months.
Thanks so much for letting me vent!
I don't know who passed out the procrastination genes to your family, but you need to do what you need to do for your own health. Make your announcement. Then move forward with your plans.
I have the same problem here. Sister will not make any decisions or delays them so long that it costs twice as much. How many times do you hear "I'm thinking about it" before you just say to heck with you and get it done. I refuse to have Mother's house fall into disrepair.
Took 7 months to get a tree removed from Mother's yard bc sis didn't like the looks of anyone who gave a bid. Several repairs are needed and she even hates her brothers-in-law coming to check on anything. Men who have professional careers and could care less about how clean she keeps the house. There are several things that need to be done before winter but no bids no nothing. Husband says just call and get them done. Right, Sis now refuses to give anyone a key to get in and never has the time to stay home so we can get the repairs made. It seems she likes being the victim and complain about how much she needs to do but can't seem to take that first step.
My main concern is that at some point this indecisiveness with impact Mother's heath. There are real days that I wish I were any only child in this caregiving adventure.