I feel like I'm dealing with a child. My mom recently started having incontinence and she knows it. Worst she never makes it to the bathroom. This is well beyond her 10th time missing and I'm fed up with it. I bought her adult diapers. Begged her to use them. Demanded she wear them and even used the "peeing on yourself at the meetings (church) is disrespectful to God so please show kindness" to no avail.
Any tips?
Have you tried ones that are fabric? They are $$$ and you have to deal more with cleanup, but they can be much more comfortable (and less "diaper" like) and can save money in the long run since they are reusable.
Ah, we sometimes slip and all them diapers to each other on this forum...just try not to call them that to her. She knows she’s slipping...it’s good to try to be positive with her.
Pull-Up is fine
Second...replace all of her underwear with the pull ups. This way she will have no option but to use the ones that are in her drawer. If she asks just say that her other ones are in the wash.
If she does have dementia, it’s common that they will “dig in their heels” about what we want them to or not to do. Perhaps have an older trusted friend or relative speak with her, or even a female staff member in the doctor’s office. A church member/friend she’s particular fond of may help as well.