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Money is gone but am willing to assist with her expenses as long as I have POA. She declined. Is getting help via social worker and attorney via APS. Any advice?
I so hope you have kept records of where that 75k went. Since your last post says she is in an AL, then most of the 75k went for her staying there. You mention nothing about maybe Dementia being involved. If so, this is part of the problem. As long as you can show where the money went, you will not need to pay her back.
Being POA does not obligate you to spend any of your money on her care. When her money is gone, then other options need to be looked at. Some states will pay for AL if the person has paid privately for at least two years?
Do not wait till Mom has run out of money to file for Medicaid. If SHE can't afford an AL then you will need to find a nice Longterm Care facility that takes Medicaid. If this is an option, I would look into it while she has money. My Mom was in an AL and had 20k left. I took that 20k and placed her in LTC and paid privately for 2 months. That got her in the door. That gave me time to apply for Medicaid, spend her down and get Medicaid the info needed. The third month Medicaid started paying.
If Mom does not have Dementia, you need to explain to her that if you are not in her life as POA and there is no one to take over her POA, the State will take over her care. A Guardian will be assigned to her and that person will make decisions for her. The next place she goes will be picked by the Guardian and you, as her child, may have no say in where that will be.
Did you spend the money on her needs? Does she have reason to think you took the money and used it for yourself? Does she have a dementia diagnosis? The disease can make people paranoid, so if she has that diagnosis, make sure that her assistants know it. If I were you, I might want to be out of her life, which is what she wants also, she says. Who does she think will take care of her if you're gone? I'm very sorry you're having to deal with this.
Cooperate with the lawyer and APS in their investigation.
Assisting her with expenses is a recipe for disaster. Your motherresources should pay for her care, not you.
In accepting that money without setting up a caregiver contract and legal help, you have exposed yourself to any accusation your mother cares to make and disqualified her from Medicaid assistance for long term care.
That money looks like a gift.
If she has dementia, it's possible she is no longer competent enough to grant POA.
If you have any receipts, emails, letters that mom sent, find them and present them when you talk to APS.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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I so hope you have kept records of where that 75k went. Since your last post says she is in an AL, then most of the 75k went for her staying there. You mention nothing about maybe Dementia being involved. If so, this is part of the problem. As long as you can show where the money went, you will not need to pay her back.
Being POA does not obligate you to spend any of your money on her care. When her money is gone, then other options need to be looked at. Some states will pay for AL if the person has paid privately for at least two years?
Do not wait till Mom has run out of money to file for Medicaid. If SHE can't afford an AL then you will need to find a nice Longterm Care facility that takes Medicaid. If this is an option, I would look into it while she has money. My Mom was in an AL and had 20k left. I took that 20k and placed her in LTC and paid privately for 2 months. That got her in the door. That gave me time to apply for Medicaid, spend her down and get Medicaid the info needed. The third month Medicaid started paying.
If Mom does not have Dementia, you need to explain to her that if you are not in her life as POA and there is no one to take over her POA, the State will take over her care. A Guardian will be assigned to her and that person will make decisions for her. The next place she goes will be picked by the Guardian and you, as her child, may have no say in where that will be.
Assisting her with expenses is a recipe for disaster. Your motherresources should pay for her care, not you.
In accepting that money without setting up a caregiver contract and legal help, you have exposed yourself to any accusation your mother cares to make and disqualified her from Medicaid assistance for long term care.
That money looks like a gift.
If she has dementia, it's possible she is no longer competent enough to grant POA.
If you have any receipts, emails, letters that mom sent, find them and present them when you talk to APS.
Don't be defensive.